i could use some input

[lashyr]

i could use help. I've been under the impression that i was seeing this guy since may (2008). we met at a friends wedding & discovered we had met before and shared several other friends. after the wedding we exchanged numbers and subsequently hung out with each other later that week. We got along great and had several similar interests that we talked a lot about. he sent me little pic. messages of flowers.

 

geography is an issue for us seeing each other. the wedding we attended was several hundred miles away from both our homes. the two of us live over an hour and a half car ride away from each other. yet we talked on the phone and constantly texted each other. we saw each other roughly 3 or 4 times a month. i believed we were getting along great and he seemed so interested. this is my first LDR and i didn't want to freak the guy out with trust issues i might have so i never brought up a commitment conversation or even mentioned exclusivity...

 

last week after having him visit for the weekend i hopped on my computer to find his email account still open. i know its a bad idea to look through someone else's email cus it prying into anyones private stuff doesn't bode well. and yet i was dumb or smart enough to glance.

 

i sit there looking at the screen saying hello to this guy while my eyes skim over whats sitting in his inbox. yep, another chick had emailed him. at this point my moral standing went out the window and i had to click to see what this girl was emailing him. yep, it was everything i hoped it wasn't.

so i call him and confront him at 1am and ask him all the fun freak out questions to which he responds calmly that he didn't know we were exclusive and he was afraid to ask cus it seemed like an ultimatum to him.

 

now... hell i'm not sure. he asked if i would be interested in being officially exclusive because it would be a distinct privilege for him to call me his girlfriend... almost his exact words no joke. between the distance and the obvious failure to communicate i'm needing insight from a less biased source. I do like the guy quite a bit so it helps and hurts my perspective on what i want to do. he said he'd tell the other chick he's done with her, and then claimed it would be worthwhile for him to be in a LDR with me. But since the issue came up i've asked him a total of 4 times if he got a hold of this chick and he has said no. He claims that she has an unreliable cell phone that she never remembers to charge.

 

so, help? any perspective?

[The LDR-er]

Hi there i have read your post and it is very intresting funny enough it is very similar to my story, although i am still young still 20 LOL!~ but the situation with my current is a bit worse than ur's really,

 

I meet my girl-frind abt 5 months ago though a friend in a club, at that time i ahd no clue she had a boy-friend, in which they have been goign out for 2 years LOL i know u must think i am stupid lol but the fact is that she was not intrested in him anymore and ended with him a week after she meet me, now i am not the most trusting person when it comes to girls lol i always think they set out to hurt boys lol i know u girls think the other way, so imagine wht i felt like when she told me she had a boy friend and broke up with him to be with me:sick:, stright away i thoguht if this chic can break it off after 2 years with someone she only knew for a week, is pretty much a no go,

 

so for you, u are in a slightly better position than me:laugh:, at least he wasn;t with her in the first place, is only someone he is in contact with, and you guys wern;t official so there is no way he should give up his hopes for other oppotunity, and he props did not know what u felt about him, but now that he siad to you, he have ened with her to be with you, have trust in him, after all my girl friend have shown me enoguh for me to trust her now and we are in a Hong Kong to England LDR, so a hour and a half drive can not be that bad LOL~

 

so i think u should let the good time ahead to come your way, and if he ever keeps in contact with that chic you can always tell, you know? is just that gut feelign you get when u are with someone and u know they are up to soemthing, until u get that give him a chance.