sonofhud Posted September 7, 2003 Share Posted September 7, 2003 We broke up a almost a year ago. She told me she needed space so i gave it to her and was really hurt at the time. So I moved on and for a while was bitter towards her. She tried calling and talking to me some, but I mostly ignored her. Well about a month ago, she was getting ready to go off to college(80 miles away from where we live) and she started calling me and for some reason I answered. I did miss her. So we began to talk more often and she went away to college. She came home last weekend and I asked her to stop by my house to hang out...so we did that and ended up kissing.....a lot. yesterday she asked me to go to her college football game with her....I drove the 80 miles to go see the game with her, and we ended up getting a room afterwards. And we did talk about whats going on with us and I'm not really sure what to do now. I told her I want to be with her. She told me she does't really know what she wants....she sees her good friend Kristin in a situation where her boyfriend lives back here(80 miles away) so they will alternate going to see each other on the weekends. She doesn't wanna miss out on going out with her friends because she feels like she needs to spend time with me like kristin does. But it would not be possible for me to see her every weekend due to work....so I'm not sure what to tell her. I could tell her I want to be with her again...fully commited.....we could just be "benefriends", like we have been for the last week or so.....or I could just stop talking to her again. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted September 7, 2003 Share Posted September 7, 2003 think about all the strikes against this relationship working: 1. distance and inconvenience. 2. work and friends taking higher priority 3. previous angry break-up so you guys fooled around a bit. think of it a nice last friendly hurrah. you need to be clear with her that it won't work out before she gets invested. move on, and let her move on, to find something more stable and fulfilling for both of you. xox j Link to post Share on other sites
Author sonofhud Posted September 8, 2003 Author Share Posted September 8, 2003 Its really hard to do because I still care about her and shes taking college harder than she expected (being away from her family, not doing as well as she hoped in her classes, ect). I know just being friends isnt going to work and Ive told her that....but Ishe is still going to call me and want to talk to me if I start ignoring her or tell her I don't want to talk to her. Thats what I had been doing and its like she started wanting me back. Now, if I come on to her and tell her that I care about her and want her back, its like she is holding herself back. Its like she wants affection from me, but isn't sure if she wants to commit yet. Link to post Share on other sites
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