I'm so worried about my ex-girlfriend's behavior, since we are getting back together.

[gijoe2011]

My current love interest and I dated over the summer, and got really close and had quite a time. During the course of my semester, I had serious doubts and wasn't sure what I was doing, and decided to end the relationship because it was very stressful for the both of us. I thought it was the right thing to do at the time, but I realized recently that I haven't been happy since I was with her.

 

Well, in our recent conversations about the usual stuff concerning getting back together, or what I would assume is usual stuff, we talked about why we broke up, why we wanted to be together, the usual. She told me she was talking to someone, and that to be fair she couldn't just drop what they were doing. I figured that was ok, since I was the one that let her go in the first place. For a few days, I would joke about who was better in bed, who was better looking, nicer, just to poke fun.

 

I'm a pretty joking guy, and I try to make the lightest of conversations, and she knows that. So, she told me one of these days, that as much as I joked about her being with other guys, there was something I should know. She then proceeded to tell me that since we had broken up, she had slept with four guys, in a four week period. Two of the guys she slept with, she worked with, and is still working at her current job with her. One guy was the guy she was talking to when I started talking to her again. The other was an anonymous one night stand at a halloween party.

 

I was around her all the time during the summer, because I was out from school. In August, it came time for me to go back to school, and it strained our relationship some, but not more than I had expected. So, I am currently at school, waiting to return on the 6th of December. I am going back to visit after Thanksgiving, and on Friday I scheduled a doctor's appointment for the both of us to get tested for STD's, because she had random sex with someone she didn't know. All four guys she slept with didn't use condoms, but she has an IUD, so she can't get pregnant. I am very concerned she might be infected, and at the same time, I torture myself with the thought that I could have prevented that if I hadn't backed out.

 

I just don't know what to think or do. I can't go back up to her work to surprise her, because I know that I'll see one of the two guys she slept with. If she tests positive for something, and I don't, then I can't be with her, and that would devastate both of us, for different reasons. She really makes me happy, but it will be worse for her, I'll admit, because she won't allow herself to have any more children (she already has a 1 year old daughter, not mine). She wants to have a large family, and I want to be the person to be with her, because we have so much fun, not to mention awesome sex.

 

Just... any comments or thoughts would be helpful.