Lizzie60 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Seems to me that you can't take any decisions by yourself... Are you allergic to BC pills? Why wait for him to take YOUR decision?... Why wait to have soo many children? if you don't want them to be miserable.. geeezzz... Why didn't you tell her right after you found out he was married? Why now... You waited all those years.. and had all those babies.. I think you deserve the jerk!... Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Yes, I would want to know. Don't go at her with the "I'm your friend we both have been lied to crap." SHE has been lied to, you have been a willing participant in those lies and even added innocent children to the mix. You only have so much in the right to be pissed. You placed yourself, his wife and your children in this position. You didn't have to lay down with him. Yeah, he might have still cheated, but it didn't have to be with you and you didn't have to burden children with your mess. You wanted a BS point of view, well here's mine. Link to post Share on other sites
Shannon2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Wow, I can't wrap my head around this situation...as someone else posted, this a beyond an affair now...this man is leading a double life and I wouldn't be surprised if he flies to Mexico when everything is out in the open (I'm half joking) 6 kids and 2 wives to support? I hope he makes a substantial income, because he will get screwed when everything comes to light, his wife, his kids with his wife, and your children are the innocent parties here. You and this MM have screwed over so many lives with your decision. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pjean Posted November 28, 2008 Author Share Posted November 28, 2008 Yes, I would want to know. Don't go at her with the "I'm your friend we both have been lied to crap." SHE has been lied to, you have been a willing participant in those lies and even added innocent children to the mix. You only have so much in the right to be pissed. You placed yourself, his wife and your children in this position. You didn't have to lay down with him. Yeah, he might have still cheated, but it didn't have to be with you and you didn't have to burden children with your mess. You wanted a BS point of view, well here's mine. I really appreciate all the different views from BS. I dont want to hurt anyone. To answer the question...yes, that includes myself and my children, the BS and her children. Also, we have been to attorneys. During 2nd pregnancy I wanted security for the children in case something happened to him. At this point his wife knew nothing, that I am aware of. Well, he spent over 100K on both our attorneys and NOTHING got accomplished because neither of us would stay away from each other, nor listen to our attorneys. It's unexplainable...he risks so much and still we cant seem to stay away from one another. I demanded my attorney not go public, that we do it privately and settle it between us mutually. It is like he doesnt want anything in paper, set, like I wouldnt want him if he had to provide...???? Totally not the case... I know he lies, cheats, deceived me from the beginning, but he is like my own personal drug addiction. I cant say no, cant stay away, cant stay mad...and even though I could have easily demanded he leave his wife I wanted him to leave her on his terms...not mine. But now that she knows (his watered muddy version of the truth) I mean, IDK, it seems like we are stagnate. I dont want to start our 3rd child and another year of this way of life. A good male friend of mine was cheating on his wife he told me and he ended the affair mutually with the OW, they had no children together. He says my MM just doesnt want to make the "HARD DECISION" is the reason he lies to us both. I guess by telling the BS I am hoping that he will be forced to make that hard decision and he will let me go or want us (me and our children)...????!!!!! Ive never dated a married man and never would willingingly, but with him, it was too late, i was pregnant and in love when i found out the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 I really appreciate all the different views from BS. I dont want to hurt anyone. To answer the question...yes, that includes myself and my children, the BS and her children. Also, we have been to attorneys. During 2nd pregnancy I wanted security for the children in case something happened to him. At this point his wife knew nothing, that I am aware of. Well, he spent over 100K on both our attorneys and NOTHING got accomplished because neither of us would stay away from each other, nor listen to our attorneys. It's unexplainable...he risks so much and still we cant seem to stay away from one another. I demanded my attorney not go public, that we do it privately and settle it between us mutually. It is like he doesnt want anything in paper, set, like I wouldnt want him if he had to provide...???? Totally not the case... I know he lies, cheats, deceived me from the beginning, but he is like my own personal drug addiction. I cant say no, cant stay away, cant stay mad...and even though I could have easily demanded he leave his wife I wanted him to leave her on his terms...not mine. But now that she knows (his watered muddy version of the truth) I mean, IDK, it seems like we are stagnate. I dont want to start our 3rd child and another year of this way of life. A good male friend of mine was cheating on his wife he told me and he ended the affair mutually with the OW, they had no children together. He says my MM just doesnt want to make the "HARD DECISION" is the reason he lies to us both. I guess by telling the BS I am hoping that he will be forced to make that hard decision and he will let me go or want us (me and our children)...????!!!!! Ive never dated a married man and never would willingingly, but with him, it was too late, i was pregnant and in love when i found out the truth. You may have been pregnant when you first found out, but then you have gone on and had another and a third on the way. Excuse me for saying, but you have a male friend who also cheated. You didn't surround yourself with people who had your best interest at heart. No true f. riend would have let you involve yourself without trying to point out to you the ramifications. At this point(I agree with Lizzie:eek:)you don't want to make any decisions for yourself either. You are dodging responsibility as much as he is. He didn't force you to have sex with him. He didn't force you not to use protection. He didn't force you to concieve more than once. That's all on you. And you willingly did it with him 2 more times. It is never to late to do the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pjean Posted November 28, 2008 Author Share Posted November 28, 2008 You may have been pregnant when you first found out, but then you have gone on and had another and a third on the way. Excuse me for saying, but you have a male friend who also cheated. You didn't surround yourself with people who had your best interest at heart. No true f. riend would have let you involve yourself without trying to point out to you the ramifications. At this point(I agree with Lizzie:eek:)you don't want to make any decisions for yourself either. You are dodging responsibility as much as he is. He didn't force you to have sex with him. He didn't force you not to use protection. He didn't force you to concieve more than once. That's all on you. And you willingly did it with him 2 more times. It is never to late to do the right thing. So, the "right thing" is calling the BS (wife) and telling her everything? I'm slightly intimidated being that she is a year older than my own mother! Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 3 children from mm, wow... How many years has this been in the making? He sure is leading a double life. I can bet you money, she does not KNOW anything, He says she does, but he is saying that because he is afraid that you will tell her, by telling you she already knows some things, he is hoping that you wont bother.. thinking she does not care. He is scared, plain ole scared... Now how I see it, he maybe paying you also more money to be quiet, have you checked out if he had to pay by the court system what child support would be? I am assuming it would be less then he is paying now.. If she found out, it could hurt you finanically. Can you live off of what the courts assign for three children. You are a sahm, you may have to get a job, if he cuts your money. I am still in shock, 3 children, what were you thinking? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Get to a lawyer and tell the wife, so she can protect herself. I would bet money that you aren't and haven't been the only one. She needs to know for health purposes. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 So what happened to this situation then? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t134567/ He didn't file after all? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 That's odd. In Oct. 2007, you only had one son. Now you have three children from him? That's not mathematically possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 So what happened to this situation then? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t134567/ He didn't file after all? Methink this is a troll... on this post.. she is talking about 'our' son... she only had one child then.. now she's expecting her 3rd.. Don't buy this story anymore.. too many discrepencies.. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Methink this is a troll... on this post.. she is talking about 'our' son... she only had one child then.. now she's expecting her 3rd.. Don't buy this story anymore.. too many discrepencies.. I thought the same thing...That's why I posted the link.. Link to post Share on other sites
Federica Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 I will give the OP 1 opportunity to explain herself. If we hear nothing - I think she'll be leaving. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Well damn, I could have been in the bathroom getting rid of all the stuff I ate. Link to post Share on other sites
Shannon2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 So either a liar or a troll...I suppose both are similar in character, or should I say lack thereof... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Are you allergic to BC pills? Lizzie... two or three children! I highly doubt they were all "oopses"! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 So what happened to this situation then? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t134567/ He didn't file after all? Oh, yes the 53 year old woman who had just had a baby and is now on #3, and is now worrying that MM's wife is only a year older than her mother? How old does that make MM? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Lizzie... two or three children! I highly doubt they were all "oopses"! exactly .. I could understand the first one.. could be an accident.. but THREE... really!!! I think this is a troll though.. too many odd twists to that story... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Yeah so then she has 5 children, had 3 a while ago by 3 different men, though one of those kids was given up for adoption and now she's got 2 more kids plus she's pregnant again? Something is very wrong here.... In Sept 2007 she asked the same question about telling the wife about the affair and the kids. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130926/ Though in Sept 2007, a year ago, they only had one child together. Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 In this post she already had one child and was currently 6 months pregnant with her 2nd. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130675/ If she gave birth in December of 2007 then it is quite conceivable (no pun intended) for her to be in position to give birth to a 3rd child if she got pregnant again in February of 2008. Where did she post that she was 51 years old? Maybe someone got confused her age with the 51 posts disclosed in her profile? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 dont want our child to be a secret (and i think it is killing him not being able to celebrate his youngest child)...but i feel strongly that he should be the one to tell his w. i dont think it should come from me, or anyone else. i wont contact her... Continued from that same thread... Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 I tried to delete my previous post but alas, not in time! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134473 i am more concerned with his rage from losing control of me and of me leaving him. he has threatened more than once how easy it would be to make me disappear. Thing is, back then she broke it off with him...And from what I've read, this guy is either famous or in the public eye of some sorts. Link to post Share on other sites
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