Lostatsea22 Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 I signed up to this forum because i have never felt more confused in my life, and frankly i'm too embaressed to go to anyone else. About 3 months ago I met a girl online, we talked and got to know each other and before long it was clear we were falling for each other. She was everything I could have ever wished for in a person. Sweet, loving, beautiful, caring. I had never been more head over heels for a person. We talked on the phone every night, unless her roomate was around. I always asked why she couldn't talk to me around her roomate, or anyone else for that matter, and she said she was simply scared of talking on the phone in public...fair enough. Last night we began talking, and she asked me these question...She said what would you do if the pictures you had seen really weren't of me. What if I was really fat and ugly. And I told her i'd love her anyways. And then she asked me, would I still love her if she was really a male....which needless to say caught me offguard. The conversation went on for about an hour, with her saying that he had been lying about that but didn't have the heart to tell me...that he had fallen in love with me and didn't want to break my heart. That the entire myspace was fake and were just pictures of his friend. I made him call me, and it was a male voice that sounded quite like her...only deeper. If you are still reading, this is where it all gets tricky. After about a half hour of me flipping out and saying I couldn't deal with this. He says, by the way...she's been sleeping for like 2 hours. This is her cousin...it's a joke. Which led me to ask to then get her up and let me talk to her, and when "she" found out she was crying and hysterical that it had happened. I'm now scared to death though. If someone was insane enough to fake being female for over 3 months, they'd be insane enough to act like that again if they feared losing me. I can't imagine anyone perfecting a female voice that well...I mean it's incredible, if it's really a male. I honestly don't know what to do, was it really just a cruel prank or am I being duped completely. It's made me start to question everything, and when you do that you just come up with more evidence of things that are amiss. Now I have a whole list of stuff that makes me think it was all a hoax and ive been in love with a guy this entire time. I just don't want to believe it's true...cause if it is I don't see how i can ever trust anyone again. She talked to me all night long to try and calm me down, but wouldn't go wake up her "cousin" and this morning said if I keep being paranoid about this I was gonna lose her. What do I do? I'm honestly so confused. I told her to get a webcam and she said she would eventually...but I really just want to know now. Any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 Drop this like a hot one. This is pathetic. You don't want to be involved with stupid losers like this. It was a ridiculous and tasteless trick to play, and unless you are absolutely clear on where you stand and what is what - you have every right to kick this to the touchline. It's not up to you to stop being paranoid. It's up to her to build the trust, and come up with the goods. Link to post Share on other sites
SierraRose Posted November 30, 2008 Share Posted November 30, 2008 Hightail it the hell outta there...You met her on Myspace? Honestly, don't waste your time...there are way too many freaks on the internet and it seems as if you found yourself a good one. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 30, 2008 Share Posted November 30, 2008 Are you kidding? You've centered your love life around someone you met online whom you've never met and you're "head over heels" in 3 months WITH SOMEONE YOU HAVE NEVER EVER EVER MET IN PERSON? GET OFF THE COMPUTER and GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE and meet some real people in real life that you can actually see, touch, and not confuse with their male alter-egos. Link to post Share on other sites
Capricciosa Posted November 30, 2008 Share Posted November 30, 2008 If it was a prank, it was stupid an cruel. If it's not, the person you "loved" does not exist anyway. I'm sorry for your pain, but it's time to just shut the whole thing down either way. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 The classic Bait and Switch tactic. Don't talk to 'her' until 'she' bothers to go and get a webcam (you can send 'her' one) they are about $20. You don't want to 'fall in love' with this person under false pretenses. Sounds awfully suspect.... hmmm.... not at all a normal kind of way to treat a budding love interest, something is certainly up. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Don't talk to 'her' until 'she' bothers to go and get a webcam (you can send 'her' one) they are about $20. I secord this one - third - fourth - fifth, etc. Make it an absolute ultimatum. No more relationship of any kind (chatting, IMing, etc.) until she has a webcam. And even after take it SLOWLY. Remember anyone can be anyone on the internet. Link to post Share on other sites
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