My GF's Sister?

[Ayemtee]

I didn't know where to place a topic like this so I put it here.

 

My GF has a twin sister, they look nothing alike, act similar, but at the same time are two totally different people.

 

Now Natasha, My GF's sister, is single and searching. But its just the way she acts that kind of disturbs me, not so much but just enough to be annoyed. She's...well...boy crazy. I mean, to the fullest.

 

Every other guy is "hot" or "ooo he look good". I understand she's single but its like she can't control her hormones. I guess its annoying because shes my GF's twin sister, you know? Sometimes she'll ask for my GF's opinion of guys she has the hots for right infront of me.

 

I guess that's nothing to be annoyed over and it really isn't. But lately she's been upgrading. She's been messing around with guys just for the hell of it, to just say "hey I did this!" you know? She's been messing around with this one guy because of his "hot body". She says they're just friends but every weekend she's out with him and having him buy her dinner. When the poor guy wants to be more than friends she bites his head off for it. But at the same time she makes out with him and does lord knows what else.

 

Now that kinda got my panties in a twist. As a guy I know what its like to be trapped by a "tease".

 

Moving on, just recently she's been talking to a guy who has a girlfriend. She knows he has a girlfriend, he told her, but she still talks to him and this weekend she's going to hang out with him. Of course he's "hot" and she loves the attention he gives her.

 

I dunno what it is but it bothers me the way she's carrying herself. I guess if it were some other random chick I wouldn't give a **** but its my GF's twin sister. Its even more disturbing that my GF is super close to someone who carries themself like that and I expect her to be, its her sister. Maybe I'm paranoid she'll rub off on my GF.

 

On one hand I'm pissed off at her and then out of nowhere I worry for her. This guy she's talking to now, obviously he doesn't give a **** about her. What will he see in my GF's sister if he already has a GF? Surely she must know she's just that piece of ass on the side to this guy and once he's done with her its back to his GF...right? I wanna sit her down and talk to her but it really isn't my business to do that. But I'd rather spare her, my GF, and myself the hurt if this guy does do her wrong because I'm close with her to. My GF can't stand what she's doing but doesn't want to say anything because the way she sees it is:

 

1.) Natasha is single and grown, she can do whatever she wants

 

and

 

2.) It isn't our business.

 

What should I do? Sit back and play the cool guy or be the concerned guy for not only Natasha but my GF's sake as well?

[Davey McG]

1.) Natasha is single and grown, she can do whatever she wants

 

and

 

2.) It isn't our business.

 

BINGO. Just let her be. It isn't any of your business

[imagine]

Does she tease you too?

[norajane]

How does this have anything to do with you? Seems you are spending a LOT of time analyzing her behavior. Why? Do you have a secret thing for her or something?

 

If your gf is concerned about her sister, she can talk to her. This is NOT your business, so stay out of it.

[Ayemtee]

Nah she doesn't tease me and I don't have a thing for my girl's twin sister. I'm just close with her and I know she's kinda down and out about being single. She often says she's "sad and alone" and she'll throw herself at anything for some attention. I can't blame her though, being single blows ass.

 

I'm not gonna say anything. Get it where you can I guess. I just wish she'd atleast respect someone else's relationship and get it from somewhere that hasn't been claimed private property.

[lamaman3]

Jesus Christ you have alot to learn about women.

 

Since you strangely have an issue with a girl wanting to hang out with guys she thinks are "hot" (Personally Id think something was wrong with a girl who DIDNT want to hang out with a hot guy) - the issue seems to be an insecurity on your part.

 

Get your ass to the gym and start improving YOUR looks. Maybe then you wouldnt be so jealous anytime another girl finds another guy "hot"

[Ayemtee]

Jesus Christ you have alot to learn about women.

 

Since you strangely have an issue with a girl wanting to hang out with guys she thinks are "hot" (Personally Id think something was wrong with a girl who DIDNT want to hang out with a hot guy) - the issue seems to be an insecurity on your part.

 

Get your ass to the gym and start improving YOUR looks. Maybe then you wouldnt be so jealous anytime another girl finds another guy "hot"

 

Well first of all, it has nothing to do with my looks or insecurities, and second I do go to the gym. It doesn't matter if the guy she's with is hot or not, or if she chooses to hang out with a guy period. I'm not trying to control my girl's sister's life.

 

What I'm saying is that, should I really be concerned for her feelings? I know as well as she does that its more than friendship she wants from this guy - but he has a GF. What good could possibly come out of those two mixtures? Its like adding fuel to the fire so to speak. I'm not gonna say crap, I just wanna know if I should even be worried a little bit for someone I care about.

 

The last "hot" guy she hung out with and said was a friend, she came back telling us how she made out with him and groped him and this and that in the movies. But then she puts a stop on the guy when he wants more and says "let's be friends" And this was a single guy, and now they hate each other. What is she going to do with the guy who's already got a GF when the situation gets sticky? Surely she knows this is a bad path to take.

 

The just of it is this. She's single and boycrazy - a ok. She has hot guys that she calls friends - ok. But I know her....she doesn't keep it friendly with guys she's attracted to. O effin K with me, I'm ok with all of the above. What I'm worried about is her taking all of the above factors and combining it with a guy who ALREADY HAS A GF. We all know how these things go, especially if you're a guy who's done this before. The ones on the side are what to you? And she's single, dying for attention, and this guy is everything she likes. Is she not gonna get hurt?

[Ayemtee]

I can't stress enough - I am not jealous. Lol...I dunno what else I could say to get that point across. I'm not interested in my GF's sister, I'm just worried that maybe she'll get attached to this guy and get hurt really bad. Its something I don't want to see, I've become good friends with her.

 

I really would love a females opinion on this. Single ladies have flings all the time and I understand that, they're single. But would you recommend it with someone who's already in a relationship? Will she get attached?

 

I'm really not going to voice my opinion on this unless somehow things get out of control or really ugly. And before I do that maybe I'd talk to my GF so she can do it.

[lamaman3]

When will you start to be honest with yourself...

 

 

 

Now Natasha, My GF's sister, is single and searching. But its just the way she acts that kind of disturbs me, not so much but just enough to be annoyed. She's...well...boy crazy. I mean, to the fullest.

 

 

I dont see concern for her feeling - you said it disturbs you that she is "boy crazy"

 

Every other guy is "hot" or "ooo he look good". I understand she's single but its like she can't control her hormones.

 

WTF? Why would she want to control her hormones? Youre a fool if you think this is about her feelings - it disturbs you the same way that it disturbed you to think of your girlfriend having sex with a guy she found "hot" at the mall.

 

I guess its annoying because shes my GF's twin sister, you know?

 

No I dont know - please explain it

 

 

She's been messing around with guys just for the hell of it

 

And this is an issue for you - why exactly??

She's been messing around with this one guy because of his "hot body".

 

Oh right - in your world it disturbs you that girls are sexual. She should only mess with him if she is "in love" with him and wants to marry him.

 

She says they're just friends but every weekend she's out with him and having him buy her dinner. When the poor guy wants to be more than friends she bites his head off for it. But at the same time she makes out with him and does lord knows what else.

 

Now that kinda got my panties in a twist. As a guy I know what its like to be trapped by a "tease".

 

Trapped by a tease? WTF? Because she kisses the guy she has to be in a relationship with him? And the fact that she chooses to kiss him but dosent want him as a boyfriend annoys you??? Control issues much?

 

Moving on, just recently she's been talking to a guy who has a girlfriend. She knows he has a girlfriend, he told her, but she still talks to him and this weekend she's going to hang out with him. Of course he's "hot" and she loves the attention he gives her.

 

 

I dunno what it is but it bothers me the way she's carrying herself. I guess if it were some other random chick I wouldn't give a **** but its my GF's twin sister. Its even more disturbing that my GF is super close to someone who carries themself like that and I expect her to be, its her sister. Maybe I'm paranoid she'll rub off on my GF.

 

Ahh so all you are are concerned about the feelings of a girl who "you care about" - but at the same time it bothers you that she is close to her twin sister. Yea buddy - it sounds like you really really care about this girl.

 

On one hand I'm pissed off at her and then out of nowhere I worry for her. This guy she's talking to now, obviously he doesn't give a **** about her. What will he see in my GF's sister if he already has a GF? Surely she must know she's just that piece of ass on the side to this guy and once he's done with her its back to his GF...right?

 

Seems like she is horny and is cool with getting some ass from a guy she thinks is hot. Or maybe she just likes to hang out with an attractive guy without being his girlfriend. You seem to have an issue that she is enjoying the single life and casual relationships.

 

What should I do? Sit back and play the cool guy or be the concerned guy for not only Natasha but my GF's sake as well?

 

I think you really need to reconcile yourself to female sexuality.

[Ayemtee]

I was upset when I wrote the post. My intentions were not to slander Natasha for her being single, but more to point out all of the history that's led her to this point and the kind of path she's been on lately. Even my GF, said she's not being her normal self. Take it for what you will. But I'd rather do without the attacking Iamaman3. All I'm asking is if its ok for me to be a little concerned about if she'll get hurt or not?

 

I admit, I was a bit concerned when I first witnessed it because I was like "ok this is my GF's twin sister, wow, what if she(my GF) acts like Natasha" But this was a while ago, when me and my GF first started dating, and while it shouldn't have been an issue then, it isn't now. The females sexuality isn't something I turn a cold shoulder to. She could be ****ing my brother for all I care. She just isn't being cautious about it anymore. Is it smart to throw yourself at someone who's already in a relationship? That's the main question here.

[norajane]

I still don't understand why this is YOUR issue to deal with. Your GF is her sister; if anyone should be concerned about Natasha and should do something or say something or provide guidance, it should be your GF, not YOU.

 

Is your GF as concerned about her sister as you are? Is your GF doing anything?

 

Stay out of it or your GF is going to start thinking exactly what we're thinking - that you are too all up in Natasha's business and there's a reason for that. You can deny it all you want, and you can add lol's to your denials all you want, but the fact is you seem to be paying an awful lot of attention to your GF's sister and her sex life.

[Ayemtee]

I still don't understand why this is YOUR issue to deal with. Your GF is her sister; if anyone should be concerned about Natasha and should do something or say something or provide guidance, it should be your GF, not YOU.

 

Is your GF as concerned about her sister as you are? Is your GF doing anything?

 

Stay out of it or your GF is going to start thinking exactly what we're thinking - that you are too all up in Natasha's business and there's a reason for that. You can deny it all you want, and you can add lol's to your denials all you want, but the fact is you seem to be paying an awful lot of attention to your GF's sister and her sex life.

 

 

She really is but Suria doesn't want to say anything, neither do I. So its none of my business, one of the two answers I was expecting. =) Her sex life isn't any of my concern, and while I've said it before I'm not going to say it again. If you don't believe me you don't believe me, its hard to be sincere on a message board. What does my lol-ing have to do with anything btw? If I were concerned about her sex life the post would've been more geared to me asking if you guys think she's ****ing him or not.

[lamaman3]

Your concern for her is laughable. Here is a girl that has been hooking up with a bunch of guys casually, you describe her as "boy crazy," and always talking about which guy is "hot." What exactly are you concerned will happen here exactly? That she will meet a guy who has a girlfriend and all she can say about him is that hes "hot" - and suddenly fall madly in love with him and be brutally hurt like a crushed delicate flower because he will return to his beloved girlfriend and not marry your gf's sister after they have hooked up? You really think thats what would happen and thats whats motivating your concern?

 

Anyone with half a brain knows what the issue here is. Its the same issue you had with your girlfriend and which you spent the majority of your post about her sister talking about. You have a Madonna/Whore complex. You said you dont want you gf to have been "skeezy" - defined by you as a girl that might have sexual feelings independent of "love" and "relationship" and now you have the same issue with her twin sister - your concern is not for her twin's feelings - because after describing how "she cant control her hormones" and how it annoys you that she is "boy crazy" and how she finds guys "hot" and messes around with a guy because he has a "hot body" - you then say you are concerned because its your gf's twin sister and maybe "it" (the "it" being perhaps a sex drive) would rub off on your girlfriend and it bothers you that she is close to her sister.

 

You only go off on this "concern for her feelings getting hurt" after you are called out on all this other ridiculous bull**** of girls either being "skeezy" and "passed around by the HS football team" or delicate little flowers who are constantly searching for love and get "hurt and used" by ******* guys who only want sex (boohoo).

[Ayemtee]

Your concern for her is laughable. Here is a girl that has been hooking up with a bunch of guys casually, you describe her as "boy crazy," and always talking about which guy is "hot." What exactly are you concerned will happen here exactly? That she will meet a guy who has a girlfriend and all she can say about him is that hes "hot" - and suddenly fall madly in love with him and be brutally hurt like a crushed delicate flower because he will return to his beloved girlfriend and not marry your gf's sister after they have hooked up? You really think thats what would happen and thats whats motivating your concern?

 

Anyone with half a brain knows what the issue here is. Its the same issue you had with your girlfriend and which you spent the majority of your post about her sister talking about. You have a Madonna/Whore complex. You said you dont want you gf to have been "skeezy" - defined by you as a girl that might have sexual feelings independent of "love" and "relationship" and now you have the same issue with her twin sister - your concern is not for her twin's feelings - because after describing how "she cant control her hormones" and how it annoys you that she is "boy crazy" and how she finds guys "hot" and messes around with a guy because he has a "hot body" - you then say you are concerned because its your gf's twin sister and maybe "it" (the "it" being perhaps a sex drive) would rub off on your girlfriend and it bothers you that she is close to her sister.

 

You only go off on this "concern for her feelings getting hurt" after you are called out on all this other ridiculous bull**** of girls either being "skeezy" and "passed around by the HS football team" or delicate little flowers who are constantly searching for love and get "hurt and used" by ******* guys who only want sex (boohoo).

 

If it seems that way then I'm sorry but it really isn't. I really do have a concern but I wouldn't act on it in an irrational way. She is going to get hurt by this guy. Why you ask? Because I know how she is. Do you know her? Oh okay. While I would love to play cat and mouse with you, you're not doing much by being an aggressor. The madonna/whore complex doesn't pertain to me. Or to this post. I have zero interest in my GF's sister and the concern only stems from her being a friend.

[Narf]

Hello ... This got my interest cause i am a twin... and very very different from my sister and when we were younger she was the wild "boy crazy" one...

 

I really dont think you need to be concerned at all... Twins are different people with totally different ideas of what is right and wrong just like anyone else... She prob knows herself that she might be setting herself up for a fall... but that could be true of any relationship she enters...

 

The fact you care so much would be of a worry for me.. Twins are often compared and as much as i love my sister at times i was jealous and if my b/f showed too much concern i might take it the wrong way... Or even if her b/f showed to much care for me i would get upset for her...

 

My advice stay out of it... Be there for your g/f if and when it hits the fan, cause she will feel her sisters grief (just like any friend feels a friends grief)... The sister can do whatever she pleases... Yes you might not agree but it isnt your life it is hers

[Ayemtee]

Hello ... This got my interest cause i am a twin... and very very different from my sister and when we were younger she was the wild "boy crazy" one...

 

I really dont think you need to be concerned at all... Twins are different people with totally different ideas of what is right and wrong just like anyone else... She prob knows herself that she might be setting herself up for a fall... but that could be true of any relationship she enters...

 

The fact you care so much would be of a worry for me.. Twins are often compared and as much as i love my sister at times i was jealous and if my b/f showed too much concern i might take it the wrong way... Or even if her b/f showed to much care for me i would get upset for her...

 

My advice stay out of it... Be there for your g/f if and when it hits the fan, cause she will feel her sisters grief (just like any friend feels a friends grief)... The sister can do whatever she pleases... Yes you might not agree but it isnt your life it is hers

 

Well at least you grasped what I was trying to get at in this post. Yeah I do agree my concern for her is a little bit overboard but nothing to be of worry about. I wouldn't lay a hand on my GF's sister, not because she isn't attractive but out of respect for my relationship, and out of their kinship, and because I wouldn't want that to happen to me. Plus there really isn't an attraction there, but that's the least of the reasons.

 

I do plan on staying out of it, I wasn't even supposed to know but Suria told me because she to is concerned for her sister. She said she even told Natasha that she's better than that, messing around with someone's BF - but Natasha's gonna do what Natasha's gonna do. Maybe she's doing this for some type of recognition? Perhaps to see if she's still got "it"? What are your thoughts?