fudge_cake_89 Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 meeting nice guys at uni is impossible for me! firstly im a Fashion student and the only 2 guys on my course are gay..not a good start! im also a keen dancer, again the only guys tend to be gay. so my daytime lifestyle isnt giving me great opportunities! i dont tend to like meeting guys on nights out because generally their only aim is to get sex, and im not the kinda girl who gives sex away that easily. but i still love the cheeky banter on nights out, and love guys watching me dance. im not the kinda person to obviously flirt, im more of a 'cute, wow the guys with dancing, and eye contact' type girl. do guys find that attractive or not? it just seems like on a day to day basis, i go round in circles of the same situations constantly. i meet my friends male mates on a regular basis, but most of them are in relationships, man whores, or just interested in the friend they know, or just forget about me....which is always nice. also, generally i have a low self-confidence when im not with my friends and i find starting conversations quite hard unless ive had alcohol..which is sad. ha.if i see a guy looking at me, i automatically think theres bird crap on my shoulder or something, *thankfully that has never actually happened!* and i often question my attractiveness. in all honesty when i take a step back, im one of the more attractive, and best dressed girls out of my girly mates, so why do the guys always go for them first? its sooo frustrating! any effort i put in, goes unnoticed, and even my girly mates with boyfriends get with all the guys on nights out..which i find wrong..and mean..heh.. do i have 'stay away, im a goon' written on my face or something?! jeees. Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGuy85 Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 If your looking for a certain type of guy, Then go to where they hang out. In other words, If you were looking for a cowboy, You'd got to a rodeo. You wouldn't go to an intercity techno club. You said you like to dance, Then perhaps you should sign up for dance classes. Sure you already know how to dance, But I bet there would be at least one or two singles guys there, Who'd love for you to teach them a few new moves! On that same note, You also said that you wanted a guy who wasn't just looking for sex. Well then I would not suggest going out to bars, Because guys like that are few and far between at bars. Anyway I think you get the jist of what I'm saying. As far as you not having any self confidence. The only thing you can do to fix that is just put yourself out their. Sure you'll get rejected sometimes, But trust me EVERYBODY does. It'll sting a little bit the first few times, But after a while you'll learn to just shrug it off with a smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 meeting nice guys at uni is impossible for me! Well, there's the heart of the problem. Don't automatically assume that everyone at university is exceptionally bright, or that they're seeking a committed relationship. firstly im a Fashion student and the only 2 guys on my course are gay..not a good start! im also a keen dancer, again the only guys tend to be gay. so my daytime lifestyle isnt giving me great opportunities! Why not take something which attracts more men, such as engineering or architecture? As for the dancing, don't take it personally if not that many "nice" guys don't dance. There are after all other pastimes in life. Link to post Share on other sites
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