AaronCM Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 So I really don't want to make this too long or anything, however I'm really confused about a girl. We haven't known each other for too long, maybe 2 months max. Anyhow, during Thanksgiving, she and I got each others number and we texted for nearly 12 hours straight, (From morning, till around 12 at night. Sure we did other things, but we never actually stopped texting each other for more than 10 minutes). Anyways, I told her I'd sit with her at lunch today instead of sitting with my friends, so I did. The thing is, that she wasn't as talkative as I would have thought while I sat next to her, we would have some awkward silences so i'd say something dumb, just to keep up the conversation, and she'd smile back and respond. The thing is, that I almost felt odd, because she wasn't talking as much as she would with texting me, and not sure if it could be because she was shy or whatnot. She did however, talk to me, and not her friends while we sat there, infact, her friends didn't even bother us while we did. However, she would get her cellphone out and be like "Gosh, I wonder when lunch ends" and it made me believe if maybe she was actually uncomfortable of me sitting next to her, considering after the lunch bell rang, we got up, and she got up a little before me and was going to walk off, until I asked her if she was okay. So my question is, could she like me? She seems to care a whole lot in her texts, and she always sends me a good morning and a good night, but when we're actually right infront of each other, I almost feel that its not her because she gets a little more quiet. Thing is, she's a really active and talkative person, but when we're in lunch, it almost feels like she's quieter with me. I haven't seen her talking to any other guys though, so thats why I'm stumped.. I asked her if I was making her feel uncomfortable, and she told me that she was just quieter during lunch time. That could be true, I'm not sure, however I don't want to tag along and think of something that may not even be going on in her head. I could write more, and I'm terribly sorry if its already too long, there is a little more detail going on. But I don't want to stress this on and on. Thanks everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
NWSTRT2121 Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Wow thats some crazy texting going on there!!! The good night and good morning texts are good signs in my book btw. I think during lunchtime she might not know what to say cuz u guys pretty much talked for hours on end on text! At least I think that's part of it. The other part could be that she just wants you to make a move and is a bit frustrated you haven't up to this point. Just ask if she maybe wants to meetup and go on like a bike ride or walk in the park sometime. It would just be a more quiet and open environment where you can get to know her better vs. the somewhat claustrophobic and chaotic lunch area. Just food for thought you're at the point where it's driving you nuts so I would say now is the time to act and see if this is something that can materialize or if she is just pulling you on a string. Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGuy85 Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 In my opinion, Yeah she's into you. As far as the whole lunch room thing goes, I would just chalk that up to a case of shyness. Like stated above, she probably just ran out of things to talk about. Not to mention, she was in front of all of her friends, Which probably added a little pressure to the situation. I'd ask her out, that way you guys get a chance to talk face to face In a less hectic environment. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Oh, *sigh*.... What on earth ever happened to - "talking"....? I can just see these two at their wedding, texting their vows to one another. Maybe she really isn't comfortable in a one-on-one situatuion. I really do, at times, blame technology..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author AaronCM Posted December 6, 2008 Author Share Posted December 6, 2008 Really appreciate the replies everyone! I have noticed that when I'm only with her, she does talk a little more. I'm definitely going to start sitting with her all the time though, so she gets more comfortable (hopefully) with me and doesn't feel shy towards me. @Geishawelk: Haha, I definitely hear ya. I rarely ever went above 1000 text messages during a month, I'm not even so much a texter (or was) but with this girl, I'm already noticing that I'll do that weekly. What I've done though, is gradually tune my text messages to her down a notch, and instead talk to her in person just so she'll get more comfortable with me. Thing is, that the only way I was getting closer to her in the beginning was through texting, mainly because she was with her family, so that was the only way we were in contact through vacation. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 Thing is, that the only way I was getting closer to her in the beginning was through texting, mainly because she was with her family, so that was the only way we were in contact through vacation. Did you connect with your families at all during that 12 hours of texting on Thanksgiving? It sound like it's much easier for her to talk with you over text. Your plan is good - spend more time with her in person, and she'll get more comfortable with you in person. Your connection so far has been from a distance, and you haven't yet developed an easiness with each other's physical presence. It will come, as long as you spend time together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AaronCM Posted December 6, 2008 Author Share Posted December 6, 2008 Did you connect with your families at all during that 12 hours of texting on Thanksgiving? It sound like it's much easier for her to talk with you over text. Your plan is good - spend more time with her in person, and she'll get more comfortable with you in person. Your connection so far has been from a distance, and you haven't yet developed an easiness with each other's physical presence. It will come, as long as you spend time together. Oh yeah, definitely. What I meant with that is that, is that in the morning, as soon as I woke up I noticed she had texted me, so I texted back. Few minutes later, I received a reply, and we continued doing this till late at night. But sure we'd stop sometimes for 20 or so minutes (I swear I feel like an addict at Texting, which really isn't the case since I had never texted this much until I met her, lol) at times without texting while we were with our families, but then we'd throw another text in there every chance we got. As for that, I sure hope so, at least we're approaching each other a little more, and I almost notice that she doesn't run as fast to go to lunch, but instead walks slow, almost like asking me to catch up to her and say something. Which was what had me stumped for awhile since I didn't know if she was running away from me to avoid me, and simply being nice to me in texts and whatnot, or if she was just shy and didn't know what to say. But It makes a little more sense now, I really appreciate the help! Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 How is she on the phone? -- same shy as in person, or less so? Cos maybe you'll need to consider using that as the intermediate between text and in-person? (A way to help her feel more comfortable with your, er, "talking voice", that is.) I'm with Geisha -- seems that we are losing our skills at the art of conversation. BUT. I can also see how you just gotta work with what you got . Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 Yes, she likes you. Keep talking to her via text but yes, talk to her by phone and in person more often to get that comfort level going. Try to get her away from her friends so you can talk to each other one-on-one. Her friends might be pretending they're ignoring the two of you but they're listening intently and she knows it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author AaronCM Posted December 6, 2008 Author Share Posted December 6, 2008 Thanks guys, that's exactly what I was going for too, I haven't called her yet. But I soon plan too just out of pure randomness and see how she reacts. Greatly appreciate your help and patience at reading my long messages, I tend to drift off at times. Thanks everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
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