Found truth about cheating-called his GF

[savvy_girl]

Hi-

Background-

I was dating a guy for 4 yrs. He proposed & I accepted, gave me his grandmother's ring, then bought diamond ring. WE wanted it reset, so he still had it. He started to look at houses, etc. WE started fighting over little things at about yr 3. After 4 years, he breaks up w/ me, saying there is no one else, etc. after 1 month ago, repleging our life goal is to be together & promising each other we are really trying not to fight. It was all a lie.

Have been in contact w/ him since b/u. He finally told me about new gf In March. A whole other bunch of lies. Did NC until he sent me a birthday present. Then the calling started w/him saying he is still in love w/ me, was dating new gf to get over me, did not love her, etc. I said that is horrible. He comes to see me in Aug.& Sept. Keeping up same lie, saying he broke up w/ her, saying finally he needs space from both girls.

FF-Nov. I called him and he called me fron his vaction, just short voice mails-he was with her in Disney, told me he was golfing w/ guys. Calls me on Thanksgiving. HE was w/ her.

Everything explodes on Monday. I told him to please tell me truth, as I already know it. The lies keep getting bigger. I told him if he is in love w/ gf, fine, he can have her, I just want the truth about him cheating on me in 2007. I detest cheaters, and have been hurt in the past. Lies are becoming more grandiose, and there really is no point in lying. So I hang up, call GF, as her to call me back.

She calls me, we talk for 2 hours, basically she was asking me ??s, and I told her the truth. Not an unfriendly conversation. I spared her the deatils about he talked about their sexual activity, lingerie, etc. About him saying he was using her. She tells me they started emailing months before he broke up w/ me, and met before he broke up w/ me quite a few times. THIS is what angers me. All he had to do was tell me the truth. I do not want him, especially since he cheated and schemed while I thought we were going to get married. New gf tells me they are very much in love & very serious, I say good luck w/ that, I do not want him, only the truth & thank you for telling me. She said she was going to make him aplogize to me. Not necessary.

This idiot ex had 16 months to tell me the truth. Why lie? I am still going to get hurt either way. So now she will not talk to him as he is emailing me and calling my cell. Sending me "It is over" emails daily which I am sure he is forwarding to her. He blames me for this. I told him after my conversation w/ her that what he did was so low and dishonest, he basically cheated on 2 people, he had at least 400 days to come clean, and I know the only was I would get the truth is by calling her.

Why just last Sunday he emailed asking me for copies of his "love emails" to me from years ago. WTH??

I am sure she will go back w/ him as she wants to get married & so does he`he is 46, she is 32.

Why do people lie? Why is he calling & emailing me?

Your thoughts please.

Hugs,

savvy girl