neveragain2493 Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 Perhaps this is just in my head, but it's something that's been bothering me for awhile now. I have taken notice that everytime a guy likes me, he is always super nice. He is willing to take care of me, wait hand and foot on me, always talk to me, etc. When one of these guys likes me, I always never really feel attracted to him. However, when it comes to the guys who can be jerks, but have good senses of humor and want occasional space, I couldn't be more attracted. I think I always want something I cannot have or have to work for. I like challenges. I'm a firm believer that girls who say they want a 'nice guy' are wrong. I'm very weird about personal space, and when the 'nice guys' keep trying to talk and be sweet, I'm very much annoyed. I have tried liking these guys, but it never works. I'm scared that because I'm so picky, and the fact that I'm not attracted to these guys is my fault, maybe in my personality.. and that I may not find someone I really like. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 Are the nice guys overly clingy? Cause that would bother me too. Maybe you just need a nice guy with a touch of bad boy to hold your interest. I'm like that. I also need someone who has their own life but treats me as a priority too. I'm not one of those joined-at-the-hip types. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 I'd say probably about 90% of women are in the same situation. The question is, given two guys you were attracted to, would you choose a nice guy or a bad boy? If your answer is still bad boy, then, I'd worry. Love isn't about accepting gifts or special treatment, love is a mutual thing. There's nothing wrong with not being attracted to someone, even if they treat you well. On the other hand, there IS something wrong with being attracted to someone who treats you poorly or like you don't matter. Link to post Share on other sites
Author neveragain2493 Posted December 7, 2008 Author Share Posted December 7, 2008 Yeah, the nice guys are very, very clingy. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Perhaps this is just in my head, but it's something that's been bothering me for awhile now. I have taken notice that everytime a guy likes me, he is always super nice. He is willing to take care of me, wait hand and foot on me, always talk to me, etc. When one of these guys likes me, I always never really feel attracted to him. However, when it comes to the guys who can be jerks, but have good senses of humor and want occasional space, I couldn't be more attracted. I think I always want something I cannot have or have to work for. I like challenges. I'm a firm believer that girls who say they want a 'nice guy' are wrong. I'm very weird about personal space, and when the 'nice guys' keep trying to talk and be sweet, I'm very much annoyed. I have tried liking these guys, but it never works. I'm scared that because I'm so picky, and the fact that I'm not attracted to these guys is my fault, maybe in my personality.. and that I may not find someone I really like. If you intend on being single for the forseeable future, there's nothing wrong with this. Being with semi-jerky guys with good SOH will give you that chase that you need. Once you've gotten with one and have established some regularity, you may find yourself bored? If you intend to change this take the nice guy and try to make him into a chaseable one. That could provide the challenge you need to keep a relationship happy. I've heard some women talk about a guy being too nice, easy going, plain, boring and what have you - to find out they were complete animals in the sack. Rare, but you'd probably never know by looking and judging. Link to post Share on other sites
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