9Lives Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Hey I have been posting with everyone trying to figure out if my ex was narcissitc. He is but he aint. It just did not completely add up. What he really is ...a selfish and indecisive person. It has much better but I see that more than anything. He wasnt the kind of guy that would be a total total ass because it would bother him. But he definately was sneaking, secretive, wishy washie, moody, and unfair. It was like I was his lady when HE wanted me and when he did not..please get away until I need you again. I have learned so much about this topic that I decided to read more on it. I was so wrapped up because when it was good,....it was good. But then he would always flip the switch and it would be bad. I tried to save my rel with him because I loved being with him. He knew it and he use it to his advantange. I knew something was missing but I was not sure. The last straw was the "You need to see other people" card which was definately not working for me. I changed my number and gave him the peace sign. I still care about him and I think about him but I am glad that I dont have to take the rollercoaster rides anymore. Now he is no longer able to pull my chain when he wants to get back with me. He is free to talk to all the girls in the whole world. I dont want no part of it. I was his "safety girl". She loves me, she adores me. I am out there and hopefullly I meet a real man. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Facing those recognitions are all a part of the healing process. You are also moving to a point where he can't hurt you anymore- you're slowly removing the layers of power he has over you. That's something to be proud of. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted December 7, 2008 Author Share Posted December 7, 2008 Facing those recognitions are all a part of the healing process. You are also moving to a point where he can't hurt you anymore- you're slowly removing the layers of power he has over you. That's something to be proud of. D-Lish, I am proud!!! He has me wrapped around his finger so I thought. Thru my cell phone which sounds stupid. I believe for a long time I wanted to be free but could not really get the emotional strenth to leave. I thought he was the right man for me. I put soooo soooo much into him. Now I understand why we did not work for us. He was indecisive about alot of things, not just me. it is so crazy how love can blind you Link to post Share on other sites
inulg Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 it is so crazy how love can blind you agreed! my ex was exactly like yours... i think when you're blind like that, you're afraid they'll change if you leave... and so you end up not leaving... its hard. congrats on moving on though you deserve more than that!! someone that can make up their mind and not be so wishy-washy about the important things in their life!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ingenue Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Congratulations on recognising what your ex truly was. When we're in the throes of heartbreak, it's difficult for us to see clearly. Time and distance provide that objectivity we need to see our exes as they truly are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted December 8, 2008 Author Share Posted December 8, 2008 rough morning today...filled with anger. It will be a better day. He is so dirty. I went thru all that for ...THIS!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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