BB-D Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Hello, I'm not sure how to go about this? I have been with my wife for 20 years. We've been married for 18 years, and have been through some ups and downs, but not like we have been facing recently. My wife was laid off in July, and I in August. Our marriage has been declining for quite some time, so it's no wonder that we're are at odds with eachother, but there is a lot more than meets the eye when it comes to our problems. I'm not a hopeless romantic, and the only thing we seem to have in common is our 3 children (17,16, & 11 years old). My wife is very unhappy with herself, and the way she tries to validate herself is by criticizing others. She has done this ever since we met. I guess, I'm just getting to old and too tired of hearing the complaining. Anyway, the only opportunity I have to work is out of state. This is going to put distance between us and I believe it will do one of two things. Either I'll realize that we just aren't meant to stay together, or I'll miss the hell out of her. I don't want to throw in the towel, but I can't change her. She is very stubborn, and opinionated. I just started speaking to my younger brother after nearly 7 years of not talking and all she does is criticize he and his girlfriend. The guy just gave us a refrigerator of meats etc. so we could eat until I get back to work. This eats me alive inside. She is doing the same with my older brother who has his own set of issues. Sorry so long. I appreciate any clear headed advice that I can get. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
pwincess Posted December 8, 2008 Share Posted December 8, 2008 please dont give up on your wife or your marriage. maybe your wife is hurting inside and all she needs is your love and reassurance. i personally always want my husband to show me love and affection and give me his attention. thats worth so much more than anything money can buy. maybe shes not happy with herself because you dont tell her she is beautiful? sometimes we women want our husbands to tell us sweet nothings. please stay with your wife and try to sort things out. Link to post Share on other sites
Benique Posted December 8, 2008 Share Posted December 8, 2008 Pay more attention to your wife and her needs. her complaints are saying she is not feeling complete and needs more love and attention,yes,I agree with Pwincess ,stay with her and try to do your best to make and let her feel herself more complete .. if you can. Only if after trying all you could,it does not work,then give up and improve your life by starting anew.. Link to post Share on other sites
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