would you be universally beautiful if it meant you could have whomever you wanted?

[shadowplay]

You could have your choice of partners, almost anyone of the opposite sex would fall in love with you. To them, your looks would gloss over some of your personality flaws and heighten your virtues. Think of it as personality inflation. Their image of you wouldn't be totally false, just inflated. This perception would last to a degree even in a long term relationship. The only downside would be the disquieting sense you felt that they were in love with an image rather than who you really are.

[Geishawhelk]

You could have your choice of partners, almost anyone of the opposite sex would fall in love with you.

 

So gay people are excluded from this hypothetical whimsy?

 

That's thoughtful.......!

[Trialbyfire]

No. I have zero interest in being universally beautiful. It comes with too many external issues, especially trophy hunters.

[tanbark813]

I'll say yes mainly because no matter how hot you are your personality is ultimately going to affect the duration of the relationship. It's like the old saying, "For every hot girl out there, there's a guy somewhere who's tired of her shyt."

[shadowplay]

So gay people are excluded from this hypothetical whimsy?

 

That's thoughtful.......!

 

Oops, sorry. No they're included.

[shadowplay]

No. I have zero interest in being universally beautiful. It comes with too many external issues, especially trophy hunters.

 

What if you just avoided obvious trophy hunters. They're pretty easy to spot.

[Trialbyfire]

What if you just avoided obvious trophy hunters. They're pretty easy to spot.

This conflicts with this, from your opening post.

The only downside would be the disquieting sense you felt that they were in love with an image rather than who you really are.

 

You cannot always tell when you're being trophy hunted.

[shadowplay]

This conflicts with this, from your opening post.

 

 

You cannot always tell when you're being trophy hunted.

 

Well, I think of trophy hunters as people who are consciously drawn to you for your looks and looks only, while I meant in my opening post people who think they are drawn to you for a combination of factors but it's mostly your attractiveness affecting their perception of the rest of you.

 

I think of it as a form of affirmative action or being born rich and connected. You're given more opportunity in life, but then you always wonder if you really earned what you did out of merit.

[Trialbyfire]

Well, I think of trophy hunters as people who are consciously drawn to you for your looks and looks only, while I meant in my opening post people who think they are drawn to you for a combination of factors but it's mostly your attractiveness affecting their perception of the rest of you.

It already happens to me nvm not being universally beautiful. This is why I don't want to be universally beautiful.

 

I think of it as a form of affirmative action or being born rich and connected. You're given more opportunity in life, but then you always wonder if you really earned what you did out of merit.

This is a non-issue for me.

[orangehose]

The universally beautiful DO receive subtle advantages in life (just read "Survival of the Prettiest", by Nancy Etcoff). Strangers are kinder to them, bosses rate them as more capable, they have a greater choice of lovers. If I were universally beautiful, I don't think I'd be too choked up over whether I truly deserved my successes. No, I'd just be enjoying them

 

So, my answer is Yes.

[orangehose]

It already happens to me nvm not being universally beautiful. This is why I don't want to be universally beautiful.

 

So would you prefer to be less beautiful than you currently are, so as to deter what trophy hunters do show up?

 

Or is there a 'sweet spot' in which one is beautiful enough to have enough options, but not SO beautiful as to be attracting too much unwanted attention? Hmmm...

[Trialbyfire]

So would you prefer to be less beautiful than you currently are, so as to deter what trophy hunters do show up?

 

Or is there a 'sweet spot' in which one is beautiful enough to have enough options, but not SO beautiful as to be attracting too much unwanted attention? Hmmm...

I'm not beautiful, just attractive. I'm not complaining about what I look like. Just tired of the same old, sometimes.

[shadowplay]

I'm not beautiful, just attractive. I'm not complaining about what I look like. Just tired of the same old, sometimes.

 

How do you know that some people are only seeing you superficially?

[Nemo]

You could have your choice of partners, almost anyone of the opposite sex would fall in love with you.

I guess I'm the closest thing you're going to find to "universally beautiful," as I'm being constantly hit on by both men and women. My day-to-day life is spent amongst a swathe of incredibly attractive people who seem to mindlessly gravitate toward me. I've learnt to deal with it, and accept myself in all my obvious glory. Although I do wonder about my face sometimes, since I'm almost always being taken from behind.

 

So, I suppose you're asking me if I would change anything about myself. As in, make it so I am less desirable. Well, I can honestly say that it's better for one to live their life as God intended.

[Trialbyfire]

How do you know that some people are only seeing you superficially?

No one can fall in love in a couple of weeks.

[RecordProducer]

So gay people are excluded from this hypothetical whimsy?

 

That's thoughtful.......!

Gay men think of other men as the "opposite sex." Same for gay women - just so you don't say I thoughtfully exclude lesbians from my statement.

 

Well, I think of trophy hunters as people who are consciously drawn to you for your looks and looks only, while I meant in my opening post people who think they are drawn to you for a combination of factors but it's mostly your attractiveness affecting their perception of the rest of you.

 

I think of it as a form of affirmative action or being born rich and connected. You're given more opportunity in life, but then you always wonder if you really earned what you did out of merit.

I think whenever a person is found attractive by others, their looks will be a big part of the reason why others fall in love with them. And vice versa: looks can be a deal breaker. But then again, anything can be a deal breaker.

 

Is our physical appearence OUR merit? Well, is anything whatsoever our merit? But I know this is not the kind of merit you're talking about. You could fall in love with someone because they are intelligent, witty, and passionate just to realize much later that they are severely flawed. That's what falling out of love serves for!

 

In any case, I'll stop missing the topic and I'll try to finally answer your question: no, I don't think that universally beautiful people are luckier in love. I do think that they massively attract those who only care about looks. I even think that good-looking men and women are often victims of some very defective partners - precisely due to their good looks (marrrying a good-looking person is one of the ways of coping with psychological complexes). I do think that they intimidate many people with their looks and in such way miss on quite a few good catches. On the other hand, I also think that people who are very unattractive might find it diffcult to find desirable partners and they probably often settle for less.

[EnigmaXOXO]

Yes, Yes, Yes !!!

 

Not to have my choice of whomever I wanted, but so I act as obnoxious and selfish as I wanted towards my relationship partners and actually get away with it. Attractive women (and men) are often given more tenor by their pursuers than the average folks.

 

I think G-d makes the mad hatters of the world extra beautiful just so you don’t kill them!!

[shadowplay]

For those of you who answered yes to the original question imagine you could take a love potion that would make you as irresistible to your *preferred* sex as if you were universally attractive. Would this change your answer? Why or why not?

[quankanne]

Q1 – yes, I'd love to be universally beautiful to attract a certain person's attention, but I know it would be short-lived, because from everything I've read, he's muy encantado con su esposa. But still! To be hot enough to attract his attention! *swoons*

 

Q2 – the choice of a potion over universal attractiveness: I'd take the potion so I could control (as it were) when and to whom I'd want to attract. Throw in the abilitity to go back in time with this special pheromone/spanish fly, and I'd be devastating to all mankind

[melodymatters]

For those of you who answered yes to the original question imagine you could take a love potion that would make you as irresistible to your *preferred* sex as if you were universally attractive. Would this change your answer? Why or why not?

 

 

 

this might depend on weather one is single or not. i feel that i am attractive in the ways that american society values, so i get lots of 'looks'.

 

I learned long ago, to not make eye contact in stores, as it could lead to guys approaching me when i didn't want to be. my H see's them all though, and gets very protective. I just laugh that my 24 yr old H is so worried about his 42 yr old wife !

 

I am going broke, so I would only trade up in looks if it came with a contract for mo' money ! otherwise, my charter these days is basically for ALL people to just leave me the F alone !

[Trialbyfire]

otherwise, my charter these days is basically for ALL people to just leave me the F alone !

 

I can't do that. You're irresistible! No potion necessary.

[tanbark813]

For those of you who answered yes to the original question imagine you could take a love potion that would make you as irresistible to your *preferred* sex as if you were universally attractive. Would this change your answer? Why or why not?

 

It wouldn't change my answer. I also don't see how this is fundamentally any different as the results are the same.

[melodymatters]

 

I can't do that. You're irresistible! No potion necessary.

 

 

LOL:lmao::lmao:

 

Dude, don't tempt me, you KNOW you're next on the list if my M doesn't work out !!

 

I'm messy but a great cook, and you said you didn't mind hired help !

[shadowplay]

It wouldn't change my answer. I also don't see how this is fundamentally any different as the results are the same.

 

It might matter to somebody who wanted to be admired for their looks as an ego stroke. It depends on how much you "internalize" attractiveness.

[mental_traveller]

Excessively good-looking men aren't taken seriously, just like beautiful women aren't taken seriously in most fields. So no, I wouldn't want to look like a male model.