chris250 Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Do you think women are turned off if a guy proposes marriage to them more than once even if she said yes the first time? If I decide to get married I want to ask the girl 4 times to marry me. I want to ask her father 4 times for his permission to marry her. But those 4 times will be at different intervals. I believe in asking the father's permission first before his daughter even knows I'm going to propose. After I ask the dad's permission and he says yes I'll wait 1 month and then propose to her. If she says yes I'll ask her a 2nd time 1 month later. If she says yes I'll ask her a 3rd time 3 months later and if she says yes, a 4th time 5 months later. I'll follow that same time interval with asking her father. I would never propose more than once if she says no or if she says she's not sure. If she says yes then I feel better about proposing 4 times. If she says no before the 4th time then I'll stop asking. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Do you think women are turned off if a guy proposes marriage to them more than once even if she said yes the first time? If I decide to get married I want to ask the girl 4 times to marry me. I want to ask her father 4 times for his permission to marry her. well hopefully you'll only be marrying the lady in question once so you only need to ask her and her dad once...anything more would be superfluous and lame Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Well, it's been a while since daughters were their fathers' chattels so you might wanna first make sure she understands that you're talking to her dad for the perceived romance of it, and not cos you think she's his object to give away at will or whim. Then, one time is more than enough...unless you want to give her the idea that you think she is a simpleton who can't make her own wise decision the first time around. At very least, explain your proposal strategy to her anytime BEFORE you ask her the 2nd time. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 It makes you seem like the kind of guy who wears floaties at the pool and rides a bike with training wheels, if you want to know the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Quick question: Why would you propose more then once when she has already said "yes" the first time? Insecurity? Do you think she won't actually mean it when she says she wants to marry you the first time? And why would you ask her dad permission more than once? I think he'd find that to be a bit strange. And yes, I would be very turned off if a guy repeatedly asked me to marry him even after we were engaged. That's like asking a girl to move in with you 3 more times after you have already moved in together. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Next time, switch it up. Ask her, "Will you never not disagree to not marry me, sweetheart?" Insist on a yes or no answer. And if she says she'll have to think about it, then tell her that you only have a week to return the ring for a full refund. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Do you think women are turned off if a guy proposes marriage to them more than once even if she said yes the first time? If I decide to get married I want to ask the girl 4 times to marry me. I want to ask her father 4 times for his permission to marry her. Why?? What's the point of that? I suspect that whoever says yes to you the first time you ask, will already know you are a little, um, quirky, and won't be turned off by it. But I, and many other women, would just think you're strange and question your sanity, like, did you forget that you already asked and was already told yes? Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 It might even make me question whether YOU are sure about the marriage. So far all you have are reounding "NO's" You can do something romantic to honor the day she said yes, and that could be cool, but not this, you'll look like a nut ! Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Maybe you are asking in intervals just to assure yourself that her feelings have not changed, which is not a bad thing.... But if you ask and she accepts, would you not be continuing to ask the same question amidst an engagement and wedding plans? Also, of course ask her father if you like. But to KEEP ASKING , especially since he knows you have asked her and she has accepted... Would indicate that you are not only redundant, but possibly unstable. Link to post Share on other sites
dashing daisy Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Seriously? Are you joking? Yes, I would be turned off. I don't quite understand why you would want to ask 4 different times...especially if she said yes the first time. Perhaps you could clarify why you want to do this, and what you hope to get out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Jo78 Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 The first time I would be thrilled. The second time I would be confused. Any time after that I would be ticked off because by then you'd have me convinced that you are just pulling my leg and I would wonder why you would want to hurt my feelings like that. But that is just me. Of course, if you intend to present her a new diamond ring every time you propose, and she is a somewhat materialistic girl, then I can see that she might be excited about this. Link to post Share on other sites
bozwa Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Why??????? Link to post Share on other sites
Jo78 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Why??????? Because he will do it at age 69. So with advanced alzheimers, it's better to do it more often. In case he doesn't remember if he has already asked her. Good luck asking her father, though! Also, he will contemplate leaving her at the altar. So asking more than once has a reassuring function. Link to post Share on other sites
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 It makes you seem like the kind of guy who wears floaties at the pool and rides a bike with training wheels, if you want to know the truth. I agree with this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorecki Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Do you think women are turned off if a guy proposes marriage to them more than once even if she said yes the first time? I have no idea why that would even be necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I wonder if the OP has OCD, some issue with the number 4? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 More likely he is just taking the piss. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 If someone were to ask me more than once, regardless of my original response, it would make me wonder about them. If I said no, no means no.If I said yes, yes means yes. Pretty straight-forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Do you think women are turned off if a guy proposes marriage to them more than once even if she said yes the first time? If I decide to get married I want to ask the girl 4 times to marry me. I want to ask her father 4 times for his permission to marry her. Why? What is with the magic number 4? If the father says yes and you continue to ask -- by the fourth time he's going to think there is something terribly wrong with you and say no. And if you ask her 4 times (hopefully she'll know you well enough to understand your quirkiness) but it is a mute point isn't it? Do you think that somehow it will make the marriage a more secure relationship? That it is an insurance of sorts? Because there is no such thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted December 29, 2008 Author Share Posted December 29, 2008 If someone were to ask me more than once, regardless of my original response, it would make me wonder about them. If I said no, no means no.If I said yes, yes means yes. Pretty straight-forward. I would not ask more than once if she said no or if she said she wasn't sure. I feel it's ok to ask more than once if she answers with a confident yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I feel it's ok to ask more than once if she answers with a confident yes. Whether it's okay or not doesn't seem to be in question. Certainly just about everyone who posted here asked the same as of yet unanswerred question: Why do you want to? It may also be explained if you answer why you feel you should? Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Because he will do it at age 69. So with advanced alzheimers, it's better to do it more often. In case he doesn't remember if he has already asked her. Good luck asking her father, though! Also, he will contemplate leaving her at the altar. So asking more than once has a reassuring function. If anyone has followed Chris' many other interesting threads, then you would know that he doesn't plan to get married until he is 70. So unless he is marrying a much younger girl, then the father may be dead anyhow. And if he has a forgetful memory, then Chris will be asking four times because he will have forgotten if he has already asked. But still...why four times? Not only would my wife have been turned off, she would have wondered at my mental facilities. And my FIL would have had me jailed. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 If anyone has followed Chris' many other interesting threads, then you would know that he doesn't plan to get married until he is 70. So unless he is marrying a much younger girl, then the father may be dead anyhow. And if he has a forgetful memory, then Chris will be asking four times because he will have forgotten if he has already asked. But still...why four times? Not only would my wife have been turned off, she would have wondered at my mental facilities. And my FIL would have had me jailed. LOL, I like that. I don't think Chris really knows what he wants, I think he is just trying to get opinions and reactions about his views on marriage. (as misguided as they may be) Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 I want to propose more than once because I like hearing her say yes. I like hearing her father say yes. I want to relive that moment more than once. The only way to do that is to ask 4 times. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I want to propose more than once because I like hearing her say yes. I like hearing her father say yes. I want to relive that moment more than once. The only way to do that is to ask 4 times. Then re-live it after you're married, when asking her again and again would seem romantic to her, as though you'd marry her all over again as the years and decades go by. Why is 4 a magic number to you? I believe 4 is a bad luck number in Chinese culture. Link to post Share on other sites
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