Benique Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 I had told the story of one of my twins. Now another twin has been complicated She had a sweetheart with whom they were going on very well ,they swore love till death,so on .You know how it happens in relationships . Swear of forever is always there . So,just a month ago he invited her to the forum which was directed by him. The forum is of our nation,we are Mexican . He is contributing there though he is Columbian . It was as if a 'surprise',but the worst of it was yet to be seen . He made fun in that forum on all Mexican people,paraphrasing anecdotes of all kinds,including really loathsome ones,even not funny,making fun on Mexicans ... My daughter got very hurt,she was crying. First she did not tell me what happened . Then at last she told ,and her eyes were full of bitter tears. She loved that guy by pure true love ,and they met so many times,they were so well with each other ... Now they are in NC . He is sending her love messages saying he loves her . She loves him too. Yes. Love like that as she loved him ,couldnot vanish so fast . But she says,she already does not know what to do ... Yes,she loves,but how to show love to the person who hates her as a representative of Mexican people ? She does not understand what he was playing love with her for ? She says,she may love him the way as she was thinking of him ,the dreamy way as she was dreaming of him,but perhaps he does not love her really ...he wanted her to use and throw ... she has these thoughts... and says ,all she wants is to love him the way she really loves,but this thought is cutting all her wishes . He will just use and throw saying after that 'he f***ed a Mexican woman' ...maybe this is what he is desiring so much ? A loving man will call his sweetheart`s people 'garbage','sweepings','refuse'? and then will show all this to his sweetheart making a whole forum on net making fun on the whole net on her people? does he love? what he wants ? Till today tears appear in her eyes when she is remembering that day when she saw all he showed her ... He showed her how much he disrespects and hates Mexicans .. So does he love her ? Is he able to love her ? I do not know what to tell her myself ! I am her mother and I wish her to be happy ... but I do not know what to tell her,what to advise ... I really do not know .. (He wont even say loud he has a Mexican friend . As he has so much disrespect to Mexicans .. he will never let her close even just in a simple friendship,I guess.But may f**k her and make fun on her emotions,laughing at her in so much disrespect and tell everyone loudly that he f**ked a Mexican girl - this is all I can think of) Please,help me.. Thank you for all responses in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Artu Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 First of all, you both with your daughter have to throw away all this kind of thoughts as it will just spoil your days and nights,I feel . He will play with her until she is fun to be with,then he will drop her and will never care about her feelings, as even being in so much ' mussy dovey lovey ' love ,as you tell , he ignored her feelings making fun on her people and disrespecting her . Link to post Share on other sites
Tarantula Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 All I see here is that he is a funmaker and a good player. And you know , it is the best of plays to play - how to kick,then to win back and so on and on etc` . He kicked her out ,now trying his best to win . He wins = One more goal in his playboy`s diary . Then he will kick her again out . So on . Until she bears all ,they will be good playmates. God bless! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Benique Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 Thank you for your responses. They were indeed good playmates.But all games they played were full of love and respect with a lot of fun . But It is not a game already . At least for my daughter . It is not a game . And a game is not what she wanted to share with him . She loved/s him and ... how can she bear it ? Link to post Share on other sites
Tarantula Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Look,Benique,I understand your daughter`s feelings very well imagining what she felt after reading that Mexican people are a garbage and a refuse and so on etc`. It would indeed hurt her especially when a sweetheart she was in love with expressed all this disrespect . It would be a very a personal hurting attack on her . All this shows ,he is an immature lover though a mature player . God bless! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Benique Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 Thank you for the responses very much. It helped a lot . Link to post Share on other sites
Artu Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Benique! Are there those 'anecdotes' about Mexican people still on net ? Can you tell me the link ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Benique Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 Benique! Are there those 'anecdotes' about Mexican people still on net ? Can you tell me the link ? Yes.They are still there,all loathsome ,dirty "funny" things pouring mud all over the Mexican people , on net . Still in that forum . My daughter asked him to delete them,but he didnot , kicking her out of the forum ... I am sorry,Artu,but I feel bad when reading that stuff and would not like to spread it by giving a link on an open forum here. Link to post Share on other sites
Artu Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Yes.They are still there,all loathsome ,dirty "funny" things pouring mud all over the Mexican people , on net . Still in that forum . My daughter asked him to delete them,but he didnot , kicking her out of the forum ... I am sorry to hear that,Benique. He definitely has no love towards your daughter . All she was for him - it was a game,he is a gambler . If she stays with him in any kind of relationship,she will only get more and more hurt , he will have more plans in his game collection to hurt her a while by a while . All she will get - is just a disappointment and pain . Do not let her to break a NC. All he does - is his game . Let him play alone. She has to understand , a man who loves will never hurt like that . Link to post Share on other sites
GoneButNotForgotten Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Drop him. It's going to be painful and it is going to suck, but that is part of it. I dated a mexican girl in high school that was from a different school. I loved getting to experience a lot of those traditions. Granted, a lot of the time I felt like a fish out of water, but it always made it more fun and interesting. A guy who really cares would not be making judgements. Yes there were traditions and things that I did not understand or necessarily enjoy. But the new experiences were something that was amazing to go through with someone that you cared about. People who care like to learn about the other person. Things that they learn and try to understand make it even that much more special. Those are the people she needs to be looking for. Someone who wants to learn more about her and be involved. Link to post Share on other sites
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