me101 Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Whats up guys. I am in real bad spot and need some advice. My ex and I dated for just over seven years and we had our ups and downs like you would expect.There was never any cheating or anythink like that but I was one week from asking her to marry me when she broke it off. One week later she started dating a former friends ex boyfriend. I am still very much in love with her but is has been over four months now and she wont speak to me. In fact she told me to not even email here. I would understand this if I would have called her all the time or sent countless emails but I have called her 5 times and sent her maybe 4 emails since the break up. Can any one help me out on how to get her back or how to at least get her to talk to me. I have tryed the No Contact thing and it did not work. So any ideas. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 No. You'll never get her back. You haven't tried the NC, because you've been 'pestering' her. In her eyes. NC means doing just that. Sticking to NC. Not breaking it, not sending e-mails, not contacting, not 'phoning, and not going there. Not good. Can't be helped. Move on. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
BikerBeagle Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 I have to go with what Geisha said ...this one looks like a dead fish. Let it go and move on. It sucks, but it is what it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author me101 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 Thanks for the advice guys. It would not be so bad if we did not attend the same church and so many ties to one another. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 The only ties are the ones you create. There's a member here who actually works in the same office, under the same roof, as his ex. Yet he has managed to maintain NC very successfully. And I do mean, VERY. It can be done. You just have to recognise the complete and total advantage of maintaining it, and not breaking it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author me101 Posted December 12, 2008 Author Share Posted December 12, 2008 What will NC do if we are over any way. I really would at least like to be able to speak when we see each other. She has brought her new BF to church a few times now. To make it worse his ex cheated on him and I did what I could to help him get over it and that was two years ago. I just can understand how either of them can show their faces around me ! Link to post Share on other sites
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