pizzagirl Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Well... that makes it a little better. Just beware, telling the wife may not go as you expect it will. She may not believe you, and when he denies it you'll look like a crazy stalker. Married guy will cover his arse, and say how you follow him, send him crazy emails for god-knows-what-reason, and won't leave him alone! Telling her will not make you feel better... but if you are honestly compelled by some crazy altruistic duty, feel free to do it. Why is the need to tell such an automatic, and who is "satisfied" by doing so? You chose to have a relationship where you turned into a ---- buddy and then you feel rightous anger that you were used. That seems to be the wellspring of your desire to tell. You have no idea about wether his wife and kids would benefit at this time. Want to make the guy sweat, tell him you are going to tell but give him the chance to come clean on his own. Now that will make him sweat or land you smack in the middle of some brand new drama. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 "Do as you would be done by" is a good rule of thumb for moral "dilemmas". So if you were in his wife's shoes, would you rather be told, or be kept in the dark? Your answer to that question tells you whether you should let her know or not. Ignore the judgemental replies on this thread, you've done nothing wrong and this board can be a cat house at times. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Ting Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 My advice? Thank your lucky stars that you saw the ring, chalk the whole thing up to experience and walk away! As you say you weren't loking for anything serious, so no harm done. These things do happen. I couldn't agree more! Lesson learned. Just walk away and don't entangle yourself more into this uncomfortable situation than what you already are. It really isn't your business...he's whoring and I'm sure she'll find out one way or another. Since you've never met her, don't know her name, never even knew she existed...you really don't need to say anything to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Ting Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 I can't believe how judgemental so many of you are being. You're saying she's wrong cos she was sleeping with a man in his office?? There's nothing wrong with that at all. Some of you are too judgemental. I second that! Bunch of jealous bastards. lol. Stop hating people...please. If he was single and she was doing this, would it be soooooo disparging then too? Give me a break! Go try it once...you might find that you like it too! Link to post Share on other sites
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