Prozzak Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 alight, so here is my situation...been with my current gf for 2 years, everything is awesome, and I mean awesome....except for 1 thing. About 4 months ago, she started talking to a friend from high school, that she has openly told me that he was her first love, even though nothing ever happened, she even said that she had really really strong feelings about this guy and that she was always saddened that she lost contact. Anyway, so this guy, helped my her is many ways, she came from a troubled family, all good I understand the need for reaching out to another person for support when times are tough. So thats fine, I respect the guy for helping her out, and supporting her. So, past thingy all good, I don't care about that but as I said they started talking again for months ago. When they first started, it was pretty intense, first thing she would do when she stepped in the door was check her e-mail, and spend an hour or so writing, all good they were catching up with each other, is ok. Ok so that dies down after 3 days, they then decide its time to call each other, so they speak for like 3 hours. And they proceeded to talk for after that, via text messaging, now this guy is also married been married for 10 years, has 2 or 3 kids, and still with the e-mail, while now its not as much, it is still frequent, I know that he texts her everyday, and she might not always answer but she will in time. I confronted her about it and I got the whole "were just friends, I'm with you, don't worry" speech. I asked if he was talking in appropriatly with her, and she said at the beginning he was but I told him to stop, she said that she wasn't at all. So thats all good, I get calmed down, still don't like that he is texting her but oh well, she seems ok. Then this saturday, I text her phone before I leave for work, and realise my text didn't make sense haha, so i was gonna send another 1 when i heard me ass beep, i was sitting on her phone. So i figured, i will just delete it, and wouldn't ya know, I went into the outbox instead of inbox, seriously her phone is funky, does what you don't want to do. There is a text that she sent buddy, it went sorta like this "you can tease me, I love your shiney eyes, your wonder shiney eyes, and your shiney moods, Oh you don't know how Hard this is for me, I wish there was some way..." naturally I scratched my head in confusing, and then I read some more, and realised that there are alot of texts like that, from each other.....I so friggin confused because she is always telling me, I have searched for you a long time, and I need you, and I love you very much....but yet she talks to buddy totally different then what she might talk to me.......so wtf should I do, confront her again, or just see how she changes? and I have noticed a slight change over the last couple of months.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Prozzak Posted December 14, 2008 Author Share Posted December 14, 2008 now I just read what I wrote, seems like I am reading to deep into something haha, and I am wrong or should I question it.... Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 How far away does he live from her? That is the text of a woman who is either having sex with a guy or wants to. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 Sounds like she's deep into a crush on this guy. Whether they act on it, who knows? But she is crushing on him in a big way. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 Pack your bags buddy. Thank gawd you aren't married and haven't been for oh say... 20+ years when this mess came up. From personal experiance I can tell you that this kind of thing doesen't go away, it's going to haunt the rest of your time with this woman. If I were you I would tie a rocket to my tail and light it before I wasted another hour on her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Prozzak Posted December 14, 2008 Author Share Posted December 14, 2008 he lives like 2000 miles away, like it would be a weeks drive just to get to him, however, haha, best part about it is, my gf has a kid, who i have grown quite attached to and him with me, and she knows that and says she really enjoys seeing that because the father is an boob. So yeah, just a messed up situation. oh and I am not married to her, which might be a good thing, i did get a ring tho, and was going to ask soon, thats been almost thrown out the window I would agree she does have a crush on him..... Link to post Share on other sites
wildsoul Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 Clearly, it's already an emotional affair. What we don't know is if her saying "...I wish there was some way," refers to them being able to have a physical affair (meaning they haven't slept together yet) or if it means being able to leave their current partners and start over again together (meaning they've already been having sex and are now wanting more from the relationship.) You need to confront it. She'll probably continue lying to you, but you need to confront it. Otherwise, you're relationship with her will be really damaged. Sorry this is happening. You seem like a supportive and loving partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Benique Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 It`s obvious ,she is into an emotional affair with him . 3 hours of talking on phone,texting each other messages so much full of love ... It makes you nervous. But first of all calm down . Think over it and approach her. You need to talk to her rather seriously . Though I `d suggest not to confront her if you can,of course. As confronting you will make her defend herself and maybe lie as well . It wont lead you anywhere . Just approach and talk to her almost not showing a passion . If you can . And clear things . Pack your luggage also and move on. Best of luck to you ! __________________________________________________ "Husbands and wives, who sincerely loved each other during their earthy lives,live together again , albeit the mode of communication is the thought, and not the speech." Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 Come on people. Switch the genders. If this were a woman writing who was living with a man who had custody of a child and was "crushing" with a high school love y'all would be telling her to count her blessings, and run not walk out the door. The talk would be all about Red Flags, and lack of committment. This guy needs to take a hike. This woman has no respect for him or his efforts in their relationship. They aren't engaged or married. He needs to pack his bags and run not walk.... and if y'all are truthfull you will admit it. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Ya man at the very least she is emotionally cheating on you and completely disrespecting you. Link to post Share on other sites
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