looking overseas for companionship/love

[nana yaw II]

I was born and raised in Europe, and i feel appreciative of being born and raised here. I could have been easily born and raised in regions where living standards and opportunities were far lower, so in that sense i am grateful.

 

But despite the good points of western culture, i dislike some of the bad points. I haven't had much success with women, in honesty, and i feel this is because my dating personality doesn't gel with life in Europe. I'm not that outgoing a person and i have more intellectual interests, which most women i meet don't have. I'm not making a generalisation, but i find a lot of European women have shallow interests and I'm not a shallow person as such. I find I'm quite curious as to how the world around me works.

 

The thing is though, i find myself greatly attracted to women from India and East Asia. I seldom see an Indian women, for instance, whom I find physically unappealing. I'm actually thinking of locating to these areas for a few years, since I find my chances of finding a mate would be higher. Another point is that these cultures aren't as superficial, so maybe i would be better attuned there in the dating sphere of things.

[You'reasian]

I was born and raised in Europe, and i feel appreciative of being born and raised here. I could have been easily born and raised in regions where living standards and opportunities were far lower, so in that sense i am grateful.

 

But despite the good points of western culture, i dislike some of the bad points. I haven't had much success with women, in honesty, and i feel this is because my dating personality doesn't gel with life in Europe. I'm not that outgoing a person and i have more intellectual interests, which most women i meet don't have. I'm not making a generalisation, but i find a lot of European women have shallow interests and I'm not a shallow person as such. I find I'm quite curious as to how the world around me works.

 

The thing is though, i find myself greatly attracted to women from India and East Asia. I seldom see an Indian women, for instance, whom I find physically unappealing. I'm actually thinking of locating to these areas for a few years, since I find my chances of finding a mate would be higher. Another point is that these cultures aren't as superficial, so maybe i would be better attuned there in the dating sphere of things.

 

Women in Indian and East Asian cultures can be shallow too, my friend. Do you know about the Caste system in India? And the concept of "facing your equivalent" in Chinese culture?

 

In some instances, women from these cultures would be interested in you for materialistic reasons - that marrying a guy like you would improve their cultural/social/economic status - rather than out of true love.

 

However, I will say that you are more likely to find more women there whom share family or traditional values that you are hoping to share. Yes, I've seen European women obsess over Euro pop culture in very shallow ways, but as an American I find European women are more cultured and worldly than American women sometimes, so maybe you are looking at the wrong women in your own country?

[nana yaw II]

Women in Indian and East Asian cultures can be shallow too' date=' my friend. Do you know about the Caste system in India? And the concept of "facing your equivalent" in Chinese culture?[/quote']

 

yes, this is true. but non-Western cultures don't necessarily value social equality as much as we do in the West. I wouldn't call that shallow per se.

In some instances, women from these cultures would be interested in you for materialistic reasons - that marrying a guy like you would improve their cultural/social/economic status - rather than out of true love.

 

However, I will say that you are more likely to find more women there whom share family or traditional values that you are hoping to share. Yes, I've seen European women obsess over Euro pop culture in very shallow ways, but as an American I find European women are more cultured and worldly than American women sometimes, so maybe you are looking at the wrong women in your own country?

 

I suppose to clarify, i mean shallow in terms of not caring about much other than things immediate to one's life and not looking deeper into things. I figured that women in other cultures might not be like that as much.

[Ostia]

A few questions: What exactly do you know about Indian and East Asian women and people in general? Do you have any experience living/ extensively travelling in those cultures? Just because you consider Indian/East Asian women more attractive does not tell you anything about any possible shallowness!

 

I personally know a lot of shallow European women but I also know shallow American and Asian women (I lived in Japan for over 15 month). But to be perfectly honest I also know A LOT of shallow European/American/Asian MEN. I'm a European woman and and also don't like guys who do not care "about much other than things immediate to one's life and not looking deeper into things" (quoting yourself).

 

I do not think shallowness has anything to do with the culture someone comes from but a lot with who you meet, but also with how you treat the people you meet. Honestly I met a lot of guys who thought about themselves as sophisticated and not shallow at all, but who were completely ignorant of women being able to be as (or more) 'sophisticated and philosophical' as themselves. I ignore those guys (and there are a lot of them) pretending to be as stupid as they think I am but secretly I'm laughing about their own stupidity...

 

I'm not saying that you might be more lucky finding a girlfriend in India/East Asia especially cause you are also sexually attracted to them. But you shouldn't generalise...

[Lizzie60]

I'm not making a generalisation, but i find a lot of European women have shallow interests and I'm not a shallow person as such.

 

I seldom see an Indian women, for instance, whom I find physically unappealing.

 

Pheewww... I'm glad you're not shallow... afterall.. aren't you the one who doesn't like to be around fat people?

 

You should move there..