samsungxoxo Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I been lately thinking about giving my LDR b/f a little bit of freedom and by that I mean that besides him doing whatever he wants to online, if he wants to play spin the bottle (meaning you kiss someone on a dare) with friends he can. The only freedom I'm planning to give him is he can kiss someone else but only that, no more. So ok, say if he were to get drunk and it was only a kiss with some girl, since he would be given that freedom, ok. So if I were to talk to him about it next time he logs on online, wonder how will he take this??? Will this affect the relationship?? Or should I drop this crazy idea.. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Oh Jeesh! DROP it like a hot potato!! Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 No, I think I know exactly where the OP is coming from (I think). She wishes to appear tolerant and generous, and wants him to think she's prepared to let him do 'certain things' because her love is so complete she trusts him to 'behave properly'. She's cutting him some LD slack. She wants to give him a bit of freedom, but in turn, this will actually obligate him to think twice before acting anything out..... This is playing with fire. he might behave properly, but any girl he kisses, might not. And when a guy is a little bit tipsy, he can occasionally stray from the straight and narrow...... That's why I think the whole thing is a no-no..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 I figured as a person who denies that cybering online is cheating (as the thread she created pointed out), maybe she wanted to go down certain roads herself. Just my opinion. Well I sometimes wished he had been into this sort of stuff, that way he can't complain if I were to have done the same with this online friend. Plus it gets boring just writing about my fantasies to my online guy friend, whereas when you actually undress on cam along with cyber and writing at the same time than it's a turn-on. Then I been reading some posts elsewhere about drunken kissing which my views are starting to change about it, afterall a kiss is no where compared to actually messing around or having sex with someone else. And as Geisha pointed out in her reply yes I do trust him enough that he won't go behind my back and deceived me nor do things I didn't consented to it, thus cheating. I guess trust that he would know how to behave. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 From the POV of a person who couldn't imagine dallying in that kind of stuff with another guy because I love my man, I would have to say that this LDR isn't special to you. Why not just end it and move on? I guess for one main reason or two in fact..... 1) LOVE afterall, I never cheated on him nor done things he doesn't like, thus why I will talk to him about this as soon as he logs on online 2) I guess it's hard to let go on your first, the one you lost it to, thus that person will always be remembered. Off course it would depend on whether he agrees with this or not. But in case he does, I was thinking of having this thing going on until he comes to my country next year on Dec. 2009. After that then the rule would revert back to no kissing other people, only online thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted December 16, 2008 Author Share Posted December 16, 2008 he might behave properly, but any girl he kisses, might not. And when a guy is a little bit tipsy, he can occasionally stray from the straight and narrow...... That's why I think the whole thing is a no-no..... Yea, I haven't thought about this as it's correct what you previously stated, I do trust him. I don't want to think thatn he can abuse this freedom I'm thinking of giving away. Link to post Share on other sites
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