FreeSpirit23 Posted December 16, 2008 Share Posted December 16, 2008 I am currently in a relationship with a woman and also in a relationship with a man. The woman that I am dating knows about the relationship I have with the man, but he does not know about the relationship I have with her. Its complicated, I am confused and being torn apart. Its exhausting figuring out what I want. I have a great emotional connection with her but can't see myself staying with a woman forever. He gives me everything I need. He cares for me and I am his number one, but I dont think I am inlove with him like I am her. If I werent with her I do think the relationship I have with him could grow into somthing wonderful. But breaking her heart will break mine. Either way someones heart is going to get broken including mine. I never meant for this to happen it just did because I forgot about reality and got mixed up in the emotions. I have to make a decision soon and I just dont want to. Im debating about just becoming single and that would be the best way for me to figure things out but I dont want to lose something great and amazing. Any advice or opinions would definately help. I am 23 and still figuring out life and who I am as a person. Thank you for your time. And Goodluck with your lift. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 16, 2008 Share Posted December 16, 2008 Don't you think it is very unfair that your boyfriend does not know that you are involved in a relationship with this other woman? Relationships are based on honesty and mutual respect. Your relationship with this man is based in dishonesty and disrespect. Shouldn't he have all of the information so he can decide whether he wishes to continue in this relationship with you? You are making a complete fool out of him. You informed the woman about your relationship with this man but you refused to allow him the same information. If the roles were reversed wouldn't you want your partner to be honest with you? Lying and cheating will always lead to a bad end. What you are doing shows that you have no respect for your boyfriend since you are continuing to hide information from him that he has a right to know. Truth, respect and honesty versus lies, disrespect and dishonesty. You have made it clear that when it comes to your boyfriend it is the second choice that you wish to pursue. I feel sad for him. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 16, 2008 Share Posted December 16, 2008 I get from your post that it is her that you really love but don't like the idea of living a life as a lesbian. If you break up with her (who you really love) and go with him (because you think this is the right thing to do) you won't be happy. The feelings for a woman will surface sooner or later. It is okay to be who you really are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FreeSpirit23 Posted December 16, 2008 Author Share Posted December 16, 2008 Thank you for your thoughts! Link to post Share on other sites
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