his arms around his coworker

[bobbeepin]

Hey everyone I'm new. So last night there was a Christmas party for the restaurant that my b/f works at. All the employees were there, including this coworker of his that i've never met before. She was being really flirty with all the guys there, so i didn't make a big deal about it when she'd flirt with my b/f. Well he got pretty drunk, and at the end of the night we were all getting ready to leave, he was giving people hugs goodbye but when he have her a hug it was really long, for like 5 seconds, and they were really close. they broke apart, he said something, she said something, and they hugged again! I got really pissed and walked away to wait in the entrance, but after a few minutes when nobody was coming i went back in to get him. She was sitting at a bar table and he had his arm around her! When we all left we went out to the parking lot and i said to him "it looked like you were about to ****ing kiss her!" and he didn't know what I was talking about or who i was talking about, and when i said her name him and his two guy friends said "what! no way, no no no, you don't need to worry about her" and i was told by his friend that she's 17 so she;s too young anyway, and that she's flirty and lovey dovey with everyone, and that he was just really drunk. But i just don't understand why he had his arm around her. he says he understands why i'm upset but that i'm just being jealous and there's nothing going on. Do you think i have anything to be worried about???

[Jo78]

Oh honey, I'm sorry that you are so upset.

 

Honestly, to me this sounds like he just got a little too drunk. I got myself in a more than just tipsy state a couple of times. And boy, was I good friends with anyone who came near me, including hugs!

 

So she's flirty, and maybe they're work-friends and joke around at work. But you didn't find them smooching when you walked back in, right?

 

I think if there was something going on between them, he wouldn't have invited you to that party in the first place.

[norajane]

But i just don't understand why he had his arm around her. he says he understands why i'm upset but that i'm just being jealous and there's nothing going on. Do you think i have anything to be worried about???

 

Did he apologize to you?

 

If not, then yes, you have something to worry about. Not necessarily that there's anything going on between them, but that he doesn't have the decency to apologize when he did something he shouldn't have.

 

Not only did he have his arm around her, but he sat down with her AFTER you two were getting ready to leave and he let you walk out and THEN sat down with her instead of leaving with you. He also should care that you are upset and should have apologized and because you were upset about it.

 

If he did apologize and you believe he meant it and understood why you were upset, then I'd chalk it up to stupidity and alcohol and let it go. This time.

[georgejungle]

yeah, just make sure he apologizes and doesn't

blow this off. Don't crucify him for it, but just let him

know that, Just because she's flirty with every guy,

doesn't mean HE has to take it and act on it and

flirt back. Dumb excuse: "Don't Worry she flirts with every

guy". dumb. sounds like he was drunk too.

 

if you do talk to him about it, turn the tables and ask if

he'd like it if it were YOU with a flirtatious male co-worker

of yours with his arm around you.

 

Personally, i'd hate that if i saw my wife with some other

guy's arm around her.

 

I don't CARE if it's "Hey, relax, it was nothing, he/she just

had her/his arm around me, we weren't gonna do anything".

Hugs hello and goodbye are one thing. Alchohol and arms

around each other, that's not a good mix.