doesn't trust me?!!

[bobbeepin]

I've been posting a lot lately, because i'm confused about a lot of things.

My b/f and i have been together for more than a year, and he's never trusted me, he says it's because he's always afraid of someone better than him coming along and taking me away from him. He never understood why I wanted him and why i'm with him because he doesn't feel good enough.

well he cheated on me in august during a drunken night with a friend of his, who he no longer talks to. She came onto him.. blah blah blah, and I forgave him.

But for some reason i'm the one he still doesn't trust. he thinks that a)i'm going to cheat on him for revenge b)i might've already done something he doesn't know about because it was so easy for me to forgive him c)he doesn't trust me because i have a lot more guy friends than girlfriends

He gets so jealous over everything i do, and i don't know what i could possibly do to get him to trust me. He doesn't believe me when i tell him i love him, and he's always thinking i'm hiding something from him. opinions?

[AlektraClementine]

This so screams that old adage. "people fear in others what they hate most about themselves." It's like in his mind, if you were capable of all of the same terribleness that he's capable of, it would absolve him of being the bad egg in the relationship.

 

He sounds like a pill.

[O'Malley]

Well he cheated on me in august during a drunken night with a friend of his, who he no longer talks to.

 

He's projecting his own issues onto you; he also sets up justifications by claiming you will or already have cheated on him. The fact that you forgave him for his prior cheating has led him to believe he's been given carte blanche to continue seeking attention from other females (like his behavior with his coworker).

 

He has done enough to earn the complete loss of your trust. What reasons are you staying?