Cr99 Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Last week my Gf was going out with a few work mates one was a lad she mentions alot and the other was a lad and a lass.. So i wasn't really bothered and on the night i met her in a bar with my freinds we said hello but me been drunk wasn't happy because she seemed to talk to the lad at work more but i was drunk in the end i just left her too it. Anywaz all the weekend we spent together and everything seemed fine but Monday she started acting all moody and we hardly spoke all day. So last night we met up and i was messing with her phone and i looked at her texts i know i was wrong too but i did... Anywaz there was a message from the lad she went out Friday with and it read something like... Thanks for a great night enjoyed myself if you fancy meeting up sometime together give me a call but i will leave it upto you on that? Now to me this is asking her out with him? but this lad is meant to have a gf? Should i ask my gf about the message or should i not? i really love this girl and im sure she does me and i don't want to ruin it :( Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 How do you think your girlfriend would be feeling if the roles had been reversed? I would be wondering what really went on the other night with this guy. Something does not smell right. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Cr99, Oh its fishy alright. He is asking her out and its highly inappropriate. And I am assuming she told you nothing about this message to her, so she is hiding it. Care to guess why she didn't say anything and what prompted this "lad" to text her like that? She was giving him signals, thats why. I wouldn't worry about checking her texts. You had suspicions, she gave you reason to doubt, and your need to know is far from being bad. People who find out their SO's are engaging in inappropriate contact, cheating, whatever, find out a majority of the time because they had to play detective. Very few people are going to come out and say, "I am cheating on you", or "I gave this guy signals because I was flirting with him and he asked me out". Did you confront her with this? Or better yet, simply reply to this guy and say in a text, "this is her boyfriend, how can I help you?" And then let her come to you once this guy is scared he got her ratted out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cr99 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Share Posted December 17, 2008 Thanks for the replys!!! Yeah thats how i felt if it was the other way round,but i know it was her work mates and she is fairly new to her job and she wants to fit in with people which is fair enough. But when i saw the message i wasn't happy but i never asked her about it? i just kept quiet because i didn't want her thinking i don't trust her? She is a friendly kinda person so maybe she was giving the wrong impression? or am i fooling myself? I don't want to ask her about it because she goes on holiday Saturday with her family and i don't want to fall out.... But if i was gonna ask about the text how could i come about it without me not looking like i was checking up on the messages....? Would you ask? Im a tad annoyed but i ain't said anything or acted it really... The text he sent was around 4am the same night so im guessing he was drunk but still Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 You are fooling yourself. Say something because ignoring a problem does not make it go away. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 I still say this is what you should do. next time you see a text from this guy reply and say, "this is her boyfriend, how can I help you?" then wait for a reply, or wait til your girlfriend comes to you asking about your reply to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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