Cupcake Posted September 14, 2003 Share Posted September 14, 2003 I met a guy at a bar last night, and we hit it off really well. I had seen him out at another bar the night before and although we had made eye contact, neither of us initiated anything further. It was a complete surprise to see him again because we were in a completely different area and the two bars are worlds apart in terms of crowd/music/vibe etc. I don't believe in 'fate', but it was a pretty big coincidence. ANYWAY, we started chatting and although I wasn't particularly attracted to him at first (he's not my usual type), his personality won me over and I began to find him more sexy as the night wore on. We had a bit of a dance and talked some more, and although we didn't agree on a lot of things we laughed a lot. There was definate flirting and he did make physical contact whenever he could, although nothing was put out in the open. I get the feeling that he is not used to 'picking up' in bars, which is a plus (altho, can't say the same for myself!). He is very much a 'cool kat', and although I knew he was attracted to me, he wasn't giving much away. At one point early on he asked me what my plans were for tomorrow but I think that may have just been for conversation's sake. We didn't even kiss at all (well, ok, but only a quick kiss, no tongue - which doesn't count!). Afterwards, he got my number and sent me a text message when I got home, basically saying good to meet you, wish you were here with me now bla bla. I am really excited about this guy (he's the first real 'potential' I have met in over a year), although dread the coming wait for him to call me. It is so awful checking your phone every five minutes and I am already filling with self doubt because he hasn't contacted me today (even though, if he did contact me so quickly it would be a slight turn off). Argh! I'm sorry about the rambling post... Just would like to know what you think the standard wait is for guys calling. 3 days? 4? If he hasn't contacted me by next weekend, should I send him a message, or just leave it? I think he's used to girls chasing him, but I'm used to boys chasing me. What to do! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 14, 2003 Share Posted September 14, 2003 The standard wait for guys to call under these circumstances is 4 days, 21 hours, 37 minutes and 24.34758 seconds. However, in your particular situation, my guess is that, if he calls, he will call in 2 days, 12 hours, 42 minutes and 9.39025 seconds. Start your clock and let me know if I'm right. If he doesn't call you by Thursday, I would give him a call or message him. If you don't hear from him, you know he's just a guy out to have a good time and score when he can...and you don't need a guy like that except for justa fun time. In this case, you have nothing to lose by contacting him Thursday or later. Good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted September 14, 2003 Share Posted September 14, 2003 Just would like to know what you think the standard wait is for guys calling. 3 days? 4? It depends on the guy. He may call you tonight. He may call in three days. He may not call at all. I will say this--in my experience, guys who you meet in bars have a lower call rate than guys you meet in other places. I think there's something about the atmosphere, the drinks, etc., that can make a person seem fabulous and like "the one" when you are out that evening. Then sometimes the harsh sunlight of reality kicks in the next day and none of it seems like a great idea anymore. So if he doesn't call...don't be upset. And if he does...great! If he hasn't contacted me by next weekend, should I send him a message, or just leave it? I would just leave it. He knows how to contact you. Link to post Share on other sites
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