yongyong Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 so I got this girl's number while ago and I finally set kind of date (we didn't define). I asked her if she wanted to go to classic concert with me. I told her we should meet at coffee place first so we can talk little bit and take my car to concert hall (parking) so I just moved and I have nice setting in my house. some arts, good mood light, fire place, candles, good music, wines and cute dog I was thinking, instead of bringing her back to coffee place where her car is, maybe I should ask her if she wanted to come to my house to have some wine and listen to music. Whether you believe it or not, my true intention is no more than kissing (even though everything goes fine) since she is a type of girl for LTR and I don't want to mess it up by going too fast. so if I invite her to my house, do you think she would think I just want to sleep with her? even though it's not true at all??? I know it's not about your Intention but Action. so how can I ask without giving her wrong message????? (I was thinking, maybe I should show her pics of my puppy on my phone at coffee shop and after concert, ask her if she wants to check out my puppy lol) Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Yes that's what I'd do. Show her pictures of the puppy first. Then she'll know you want her to meet your dog and not just want to get laid. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 I think it's a good idea to meet in public first. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 If I am reading your post correctly, this is the first time you are meeting this woman in person. If that is the case then it is certainly way to soon to invite her to your house. There is plenty of time in the future (assuming all goes well) to show her your house, and get her to hang out there - why rush things? Link to post Share on other sites
Shnuggles Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 Personally, It depends if she is a 'good' girl or a 'bad' girl. Neither girl is better or worse then the other, just different. If she is the classic 'good' girl then I wouldn't ask her back to your place if its a first date\meeting. Have the coffee date first. You will know from here if its going to work out. Ask lots of questions. Maybe ask her around to your place for the 2nd date and make her dinner? My 2 cents. Link to post Share on other sites
Fierce Grace Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 i like the good girl bad girl answer.. but really if ur really interested.. just wait... the truth is its all about perception of ur intent.. and if i just met you and u ask me over... to see a dog or have a drink or watch a movie I'm going to be on the defensive.. the nice guy move and if all else goes well the sure fire the second date winner... end on a high note hugs and kisses and send her home with a second date plan.. which could be that u'd like to cook her dinner next time u see her... i would even accept the conversation about you wanting to invite her over for dinner but don't want her to get the wrong idea.. I'm a sucker for super honest guys even if it comes out totally ridiculous but that's just me... but i definitely would not do a first date at ur house i would even be skeptical about date 2 at your house .... if ur looking for the LTR it'll come in time be patient Link to post Share on other sites
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