Nikki Sahagin Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Okay me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 2 years. We have our share of problems and I am quite indecisive on whether or not we can make our relationship survive. In the summer he is going on a lads holiday (some in relationships and some not). We are also going on a holiday in the new year just the 2 of us. He went on a lads holiday last year and I was petrified and sick with worry and fear. One of his friends cheated on their girlfriend while they were away but he got a fake tattoo saying he loved me and showed it to any girl who came onto him. The point is, I am still worried about THIS holiday. I've been on a girls holiday away myself and even though I did nothing and was quite frankly sickened by the lifestyle (it actually disgusted me) - I now know what it's like out there and I don't know whether or not I can trust him. I know trust is essential in any relationship but I always find this a folly argument because you could trust someone with your life --- and still come to find they will cheat on you. I like to see it more as being aware, suspicious, keeping your instincts and your doubts instead of blindly and naively trusting against the odds. Has anyone else battled with this lack of trust when there partners go away? Link to post Share on other sites
atwitsend Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Express your as yet unrealistic fears to him. Text him pictures of you and him together during his trip telling him how much you love him. If he cheats he was planning it before he went. Dump him and find someone else to spend your love on. I don't understand the lad and ladies vacation. I guess I'm old school (married 29 years). They seem like planned excuses to cheat on your loved ones. Link to post Share on other sites
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