I'm jealous of her

[nikki85]

I have been with my b/f for over 3yrs. My mom set us up they use to work together when I first got with him I knew that he was a big flirt and was best friends with this girl that he works with and i have talk to her and even hung out with her. I am so jealous of her and the friendship that they have. My b/f works very hard and has more then one job I just hate that he goes to lunch with her instead of coming home to see me and our sons. He leaves at 7am and doesn't come home till 10pm I just feel like that hour should be mine. Every time we have a family thing like cookouts and birthday parties and go to the fair she is always with us he says it is because she feels like family to him. I am beginning to resent her and him. I just don't know what to do, every fight that we have is about her and he tells me that he was friends with her before we got together and that is not going to change. I am confident that they are not doing anything and that they are just friends but I have always been cheated on and let down in some way. Before me he cheated on his last girlfriend and that is always in the back of my mind. I just love him so much and don't want to loose him but how do I stop being jealous of her?

[2sure]

OK, so fair or not he is insistant that he is staying friends with her. And you know there is no affair happening, so its not that you feel threatened. Its the time thing. She gets to see him all day at work, plus at lunch. You are not wrong to want the freetime you have at pivnics, etc to exclude her. You can explain that you will be ok with the work friendship, but that you just dont want to hang out with her. Its called compromise. If he wont do that...you have to question where his priorites are. Just because he isnt fooling around with her doesnt mean you have to invite her to be part of your family.