Redboxvends Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 I'm 17, never had a girlfriend. If I couldn't get one all of these years how would I get one anytime soon? I'll probably just get turned down every time like usual. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 A LOT of people get their first girlfriend from around the age of 18 to 19, maaaaaybe 20. So there's nothing for you to worry about yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Throne Of Lies Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 You get my daily award for unintentional hilarity. Do you know how many people go to the grave without ever having a girlfriend? Hundreds of thousands of people. And you've been sexually mature for probably all of two years and getting panicky. Everyone has dry spells. Two year dry spells are by no means uncommon, in fact, they are pretty much the norm. Don't worry about it unless you can make it through college without bagging a girlfriend. Then you have my permission to panic. Link to post Share on other sites
Shnuggles Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 To increase your chances, go to a gym. You don't need to look like Mr Bodybuilder but a few extra muscles helps. Stay away from fast food and eat healthy. You will feel better and learn better too. Also shows the girls you like to look after yourself. Wear nice cloths. Doesnt have to be over-the-top. Ripped, dirty clothing that you owned for years doesnt help your chances. Clean plain Tshirt and new jeans\pants are fine. Wish I could go back in time. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 In a sense, yes, you do need to "give up..." Give up on hunting down girls, give up on thinking that you are incomplete without one, give up on the idea that you aren't whole, or that you are inherently rejectable. Work on your own life, become a person that someone else would want to be with - not for the purpose of "finding" someone, but for the purpose of genuinely building your life. I can't make any fairy-tale promises "Oh, I promise it will happen to you..." but it's more likely that you will find a more healthy and satisfying relationship if you are a whole and confident person to start with anyway. Be open to it, be interested in others as friends, as people, as human beings, but don't "hunt" for the pupose of bagging a girlfriend, and don't be discouraged because you feel like you're coming up empty. And in answer to your original question, 17 is way too early to give up on the whole concept of girls... Just relax a little. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Ripped, dirty clothing that you owned for years doesnt help your chances. The funny thing is though is that look is actually fashionable. I don't actually 'get it' myself, I just think it's a really crap look. Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 To increase your chances, go to a gym. You don't need to look like Mr Bodybuilder but a few extra muscles helps. Stay away from fast food and eat healthy. You will feel better and learn better too. Also shows the girls you like to look after yourself. Wear nice cloths. Doesnt have to be over-the-top. Ripped, dirty clothing that you owned for years doesnt help your chances. Clean plain Tshirt and new jeans\pants are fine. Wish I could go back in time. Good advice. Younger girls go for looks more. So look your part. Be athletic, wear fashionable clothes. You don't need to be best of the best or bleeding edge style. Just enough to look like you care. Then if you can, do something that will put you in the public eye. Play on a sports team at your school. Play in a band and do a talent show. Even just learning to dance and kicking butt at school dances. Doing something performance related and have the girls eyes on you helps a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 What Trimmer said..Regards,Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I'm 17, never had a girlfriend. If I couldn't get one all of these years how would I get one anytime soon? I'll probably just get turned down every time like usual. Think of your dating attempts like the Stock Market. "Past performance is no indication of future behavior". Just put yourself out there. You still got time. Link to post Share on other sites
crfsti Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I'm 17, never had a girlfriend. If I couldn't get one all of these years how would I get one anytime soon? I'll probably just get turned down every time like usual. dude, are you kidding me! i'm 25 and have yet to get a girlfriend (the girls never give me the time of day) your way ahead of me, your thinking of giving up way too soon! just hang in there and everything will be fine! (that's what i'm hoping for myself!) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Redboxvends Posted December 26, 2008 Author Share Posted December 26, 2008 Thanks for the advice everyone... Link to post Share on other sites
Shnuggles Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 The funny thing is though is that look is actually fashionable. I don't actually 'get it' myself, I just think it's a really crap look. Yep, its possible to pick up this way too but it depends on the type of girl you're going for. Overall though, there are more girls who will go for the clean-cut gentleman then someone who looks like a bum. Iv been to a good number of goth clubs and you get both types funny enough. Clean, dressed up vampires and the more ripped up, dirty, industrial types. Link to post Share on other sites
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