Should I keep Seeing Her?!?

[Jake12429]

I have posted once or twice in the past few months, about the same situation, but it develops as time passes, and I could really use anyone's help.

 

In a nutshell, I have been single for a LONG time. 3-4 years. Nothing more serious than a few casual dates and one night stands. I"ve been in a few serious relationships before, so it's not as if i'm closed off to them, just nothing has come along...until about 6 months ago. Met a girl in San Francisco who just swept me off my feet. Different than any of the girls I had been with in the past few years, and I knew pretty quick that this was the type of girl I could date. I didn't overpursue, played it relatively cool, while also making it clear that I did like her. We've been hanging out a TON since we met 6 months ago, (though it's gotten more sporadic the past month or so), but she still maintains the "I just don't want anything too serious". When we're together, we're very affectionate, we do all the typical stuff serious couples do, besides talking every night. We do go a few days without talking at a time and stuff like that.

 

My question is, should I keep doing this? I have been seeing other girls casually, so I'm not closing myself off to other things, but am I just setting myself up for disaster by continuing to see her at all? I feel like after 6 months, she would know for sure whether or not she wanted to actually date...which makes me think she's either scared of getting too serious with someone (she came out of a relationship relatively recently, about 4-5 months before we got together), she likes me but wants to truly experience the metropolitan "single" life while still having someone she likes to hang out with, or she's just stringing me along...maybe all of the above.

 

THe reason I'm having a tough time deciding whether I should totally cut it off or keep doing what we're doing is cause I am seeing other people...both random "hook ups", and dates and what not. So I'm not closing myself off to other opportunities. THat said, I don't know how much longer I can stay at her place, sleep with her, go out to dinner, stuff like that, if we're never gonna date...I feel like it will just be delaying the inevitable, likely her dating someone else, or me doing the same.

 

ANyone have any similar experiences? Would simply toning it back and kinda ignoring her a little bit possibly help? I mean I figure worst comes to worst, we just stop talking as much and both naturally move on that way...which is what's kinda stopping me from making the "I can't do this anymore" leap. THoughts?

 

Sorry, that was a long email, just a lot on my mind with this lately...