Who do women flirt with?

[SPLENDID SPLINTER]

I have a real simple question. Do women only flirt with guys they find attractive and would want to have sex with? As a man I know most women I have ever flirted with in any serious or prolonged manner are people I would want to get it on with. I am just curious if women are the same way. I know a lot of women get off on being teases with no intent of doing anything physical. For many women (especially married ones) it adds some spice and excitement to their lives. But even then would they waste the time and effort to flirt with someone they would never consider being physical with. Just curious?

[annieo]

I think it depends on what you consider to be flirting. I have been accused of being "flirtatious" with just about everybody - co-workers, waiters, bus drivers but in my mind, I'm just being friendly. Making little jokes, exchange a little harmless banter, that kind of thing. I'm not after anything, I just enjoy talking to people, men and women, and I don't see anything wrong with making everyday interactions humorous and sometimes, a little flirty.

 

Now, if you're talking about prolonged eye contact, sexually suggestive comments, unnecessary physical contact, well, yeah, that's a little different. I would only engage in these kinds of behaviors if I thought somebody was really attractive. Not to say that that would means that I want to do more about it.

 

And since I'm married, I avoid the latter behaviors. Seems slutty, sends out the wrong message and is disrespectful to my h and our relationship.

[Yamaha]

So a married women flirted with you and you want to know if she is wanting sex, right?

[SPLENDID SPLINTER]

Yes and no. Yes a married woman at work has flirted with me but no I do not want to have sex with her. She is someone who I have been friends with at work for a few years and have always joked around with a lot. I never really saw her in a sexual way. I am married and I would never cheate on my spouse but she seems to keep flirting with me in a more sexual manner lately. I do not want to make an issue of it and confront her about it if there is no issue to be made. As I said in my first post almost every woman I have ever flirted with in a serious manner is someone who I would want to have sex with. If she has these kind of feelings for me I would need to address the issue with her. One of the ways I think we were able to be such buddies at work was kind of the unspoken understanding that we are both married and that neither one of us is the type of person that the other would really be attracted to sexually. She is not really my type and vice versa. However, the way she has talked and flirted with me lately really has me puzzled.

[nacho bob]

I dont know why women flirt but I dont think anyone would waste time to sexually flirt with someone they were not interested in. To me it sounds like you had a casual friendship that may have blossomed into something more. Very common among people who work together. All I can say is be careful.

[animo]

Flirting...

 

Flirting means only very little. It measn someone has a mild interest in you, enough to break the "normal boring conversation" barrier... It is what it is, it means she's flirting with you, it means you could flirt back, and you could try to escalate from there... It doesn't mean she'll be open to your escalation, nor does it mean she'll be opposed to it, it might be either, it might be a combination of both, but flirting doesn't indicate one way or the other.