Does he like me as a friend or possible girlfriend?

[shygurl1975]

I met this guy on my birthday through a friend, as soon as i seen him there was something about him, so i started talking to him and he was talking back to me...throughout the night he would keep talking to me and not really to anyone else, before we left that night he gave his number to my sister and told her to give it to me....so on our way out, i made it a point to go to him and tell him i was glad to meet him and he told me that my sister gave him my number and so i told him to use it if he wanted to lol...well since then we text quite a bit and i have hung out with him once, be was a total gentleman and we were both quiet and didn't know what to talk about. i haven't seen him since that day but we still text and talk on the phone, hes told me that hes really sorry that he dont know how to act around someone new and that was why he was so quiet, he knows that i like him because i already told him that i do and he doesnt say anything, all he tells me is that to please be real with him. is he interested in me as only a friend, or possibly more then a friend? someone help please.

[Sw3etdev1L]

I think, he has set up a wall for people due to past relationships which have hurt.

He is trying to make sure that you understand him, I think he seems a little insecure because...if he wanted you to make the move of calling him, he wanted to make sure you where really into him!.

And he is like warning you. "Please don't hurt me, be real to me".

Just tell him, you are a decent person and you want the best for people in general, something like that...I don't know, for him to have peace, so he can open up and be himself with you. He might be a nice person.

just, give him a little push...and tell him... " ooooh, I'd love to go watch a movie called blah blah blah, would you want to go watch it with me some of these days, I mean I don't know when you are available so...but if you want, you can call me one of these days and we'll go watch it".....and see if he calls you....for him to show another type of interest...To see, you are not always gonna be the one making the moves on him, you know? You are not always going to be assuring him, and giving him self confidence.

[shygurl1975]

you know, you are so right...his brother lives across the street from me so he texted me and told me he was gonna be at his brothers house and if i wanted to come outside to say hello..so i did...he was only here for a few minutes but i was glad to see him and he knew it, i told him he could call me whenever he wanted to talk and that i would be there no matter what time, well early this morning he texts me at 3 a.m to ask if i was asleep, so i told him no and asked him if he wanted to talk and he said yes, then i asked him if he wanted me to go to his house to talk and he said no that he was not at home that he was out driving around. so i told him to stop by and we would talk here at my house and he said ok, well he got here and we sat out in his truck untill 7:30 in the morning, just talking and listening to music, i learned more about him and he learned more about me..and at times he would grab my hand and hold it for a minute or two then let go, he did that a few times. so, im taking your advise and it seems to be working....thank you so much for your help.

[Shnuggles]

To increase conversation try an activity together. Cards, pool, board game or even bowling can be great to get the relationship going. Asking questions rather then talking about yourself works well too.

 

Things like going to the movies never worked for me. You sit together but your attention is on the screen. Although its ok if you don't actually plan on watching it.

 

Sounds like everything is going well!!