feelingtorn Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 i met a super cute boy in early Sep. he and his friends appeared to be super geeky at first, but slowly i found out that they were like those kids in beverly hills 90210; sleeping with everyone. i was invited to a party where i got hit on by his male and female friends. his female friend actually texted my bf the following morning to see if we were interested in threesome.later, i found out my bf and his female friend slept together last year twice or more. she is married, but apparently in an open relationship. i am usually not a jealous-raging type. i am ok with my boy having female friends and hanging out with them without me. having said that, when i accidentantly found out that he dated his two "good" female friends, i wasn't too happy. how did i find it out? i asked, how do you guys know each other?.....well, you guess their answer; we dated for a while. i was actually fine with all these "minor" details until two nights ago. i knew he lived with one of his former gfs for 7 years and broke up about 5 years ago, but he always avoided answering me back whenever i asked her whereabouts. two nights ago, the same question was brought up, and he admitted that it was the girl who currently lives in another country he is moving to another country in two weeks because he got a job there. guess who told him of the job opportunitiy? yes, the same girl. they are going to live in the same town and work at the same office. she visited the city we live in twice....halloween and thanksgiving. both times, i hardly saw my bf because he was busy picking her up/dropping her off at the airport and also showing her around. i always thought she was a good friend, so i even sacrificed our dating time, so they could spend more time together. i feel so stupid right now. i feel like i must be their inside joke. i had thanksgiving dinner at his place with his long-time friends, including the former gf. then, i found out the former girlfriend dated/still sleeps with one of his best friends. his best friend also is sleeping with two other girls; one is the girl who showed interest in threesome and the other one lives alone, but still married. it's nasty. wow, i feel now more stupid after gusting out all my thoughts. my bf tells me that i am the love of his life and wants to get back together with me eventually, but he is unsure of how long he will stay in another country. he tells me that he has no interest in getting back together with his former gf. what should i do? should i just enjoy the next two weeks and never see him again? or, should i boot him out of my life right now? or, should i trust him (he is not sleeping with his friends or former gfs) and wait for him? Link to post Share on other sites
Padthai Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Wow...that sounds really messy. I don't think I could handle it, personally. If it is bothering you, I would say end it. This seems to be a lifestyle he has had for a while, which means it probably won't change. It just seems stressful. And if it's making you jealous and you aren't a jealous person, that can't be good. In my opinion you probably should end it. I'm sorry for your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
RavenHair Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 wow, i feel now more stupid after gusting out all my thoughts. my bf tells me that i am the love of his life and wants to get back together with me eventually, but he is unsure of how long he will stay in another country. he tells me that he has no interest in getting back together with his former gf. what should i do? should i just enjoy the next two weeks and never see him again? or, should i boot him out of my life right now? or, should i trust him (he is not sleeping with his friends or former gfs) and wait for him? Well, you sound a bit disgusted by his past behavior and you sound like you doubt whether he'd do it again. I say leave him alone. There are plenty of "super cute" guys in the world. BTW, he said that he would like to get back with you EVENTUALLY. Get it? That means he wants his freedom to do what, or in his case, whoever he wants right now. Telling you that he wants to get back with you eventually is his way of stringing you along. There's no sense in you waisting your time waiting for him to return to you SOMEDAY. You can do better than that. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 He is a player and I think down deep you know this. I think you can tell a great deal about a person by the company they keep and I think this speaks volumes about him. His male and female friends hit on you and text him if you are into a threesome. This shows that they have absolutely no respect for him, you and the concept of a serious committed relationship. Staying with him is a trainwreck waiting to happen to your heart. It is time to find somebody who shares your values. He is a player. Link to post Share on other sites
atwitsend Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 I agree with bryanp. Dump him. Link to post Share on other sites
MichelleS1983 Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Ugh...he sounds like a complete pig who lets his little head do his thinking for him. Are he and his loose friends like 18 years old? They just sound like young dumbasses. If Romeo's only in town for 2 more weeks, I'm sure he'll be trying to hit everything that moves before he leaves. I wouldn't touch this guy even if I wore a body condom. Link to post Share on other sites
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