chris250 Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 I think waiting until I'm 70 years old to get married would be a good idea for me. That will be a convenient time. I will have completed my time in the workforce, got my pension, have money put away in my retirement fund, etc. My parents will be deceased by then so I won't have to worry about having to tell them I'm getting married. My religion tells me that I should honor my parents. Well I put my parents first (next to God) then girlfriend comes after parents. However when I get married wife has to come before parents. So there is a conflict. I cannot honor my parents and put my wife first at the same time. I have to wait until my parents die so I'm under no pressure to choose between my wife and my parents. Life is hard enough as a single man but even harder when you get married. Marriage is just another stressor. However marriage is more of a need for elderly people who are lonely and need someone to hold their hand on their deathbed. So by age 70 it will be necessary for me to get married. So why do I start this thread? because most of society looks at me like there's something wrong with me if I don't want to get married until I'm 70. I'm 28. I love to have fun and the freedom to do whatever I want. If other people want to get married at 28 I pretty much leave them alone. I don't consider them crazy or weird. So why can't other people leave me alone and consider me just as normal as they are? I'm still going to date and I will let every girl know on date #1 that I don't want to get married until I'm 70 years old. Link to post Share on other sites
audiophile Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 hmm how about 60? =P and nahh that's not weird dude everybody has their own pace right now i'm turning 23 next month and i wanna get married right now so yea good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 A couple years ago, when my grandmother was 69-70 she met a man who was head over heels for her and wanted to marry her. Everyone is our family wanted her to marry him, he was a great man, and she's been widowed for 15 years but she wouldn't think of it Either way, it's possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Jo78 Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Oh, you're such a troll! Link to post Share on other sites
wierdmunky Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Sometimes i think thats not a bad idea considering the divorce rates right now. There's always the cheating aspect, way worse when your married. I hear such horrible stories about people who married for love, lost the spark, cheated, and end in bad divorce. Plus don't forget all the girls with no decency that don't care if a guy is married and will do anything to get with them anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Sometimes i think thats not a bad idea considering the divorce rates right now. There's always the cheating aspect, way worse when your married. I hear such horrible stories about people who married for love, lost the spark, cheated, and end in bad divorce. Plus don't forget all the girls with no decency that don't care if a guy is married and will do anything to get with them anyway. Over the years I realized that marriage is not a crap shoot that has a random 50% chance of working out. It's actually clear in most cases if a marriage will work out or not. There are/have been people on this board who are urged to not go ahead with a wedding because there are loud and clear signs that it will not work. A lot of these people ignore the red flags and warnings only to end up a divorce statistic after a few years. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I have to wait until my parents die so I'm under no pressure to choose between my wife and my parents. You're hilarious! Life is hard enough as a single man but even harder when you get married. Marriage is just another stressor. Agreed. See my signature below. most of society looks at me like there's something wrong with me if I don't want to get married until I'm 70. I'm 28. I love to have fun and the freedom to do whatever I want.I know a guy who was a happy bachelor his whole life and got married at age 58 for the first time. The two are very happy together; it's been four years now. They are my very close friends, so I know this for a fact. She is ten years younger and has two adult children. They travel a lot, he is just about to retire, so they will enjoy life. He was a seducer in his time, had many women, had his share of hot sex and all that stuff. He also appreciates his wife's company and everything she does for him, because he's never had anyone take care of him. Over the years I realized that marriage is not a crap shoot that has a random 50% chance of working out. It's actually clear in most cases if a marriage will work out or not. True. They say "Your character is your destiny" - and it's also your marriage's destiny (the combination of the two characters, that is). Of course, there are other things such as love, goals, mentality, mental health, etc. that play crucial roles, but I would include all these elements under the category of "character." It's the character of the marriage. If you have two civilized people who are devoted to and love one another deeply, share some exciting interests and are surrounded with the right circumstances, they have a great chance of success. And vice versa, when problems start early on, it means something much deeper is standing in the way - and this "something" will create more and more problems in the future. Way too often, people will never discover the "something" that caused most problems. They will be fooling each other that it's about his mother, his hobbies, her friends, her spending habits, and whatever immediate reason. But usually it's an unsurmountable psychological problem or character flaws or a clash in personalities. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted December 28, 2008 Author Share Posted December 28, 2008 Getting married at age 70 would actually be better for the economy too. The older you are when you marry the better service you are doing for the economy. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 You first want to propose 4 times, THEN ask what others thought about leaving a girl at the alter, now you want to get married at 70. Sheesh dude, I would just stick to a plan of not getting married at all, as it seems you have no clue as to what engagement/marriage means. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 No, I'd be a dirty old man and play the field. What are they gonna do to you? You can act senile and - all is forgiven! or do what two nonogenarians did at an old people's home a friend worked in. One night in her room, one night in yours..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted December 28, 2008 Author Share Posted December 28, 2008 You first want to propose 4 times, THEN ask what others thought about leaving a girl at the alter, now you want to get married at 70. Sheesh dude, I would just stick to a plan of not getting married at all, as it seems you have no clue as to what engagement/marriage means. Why should I? I don't want to be alone in my old age. Marriage will be more of a necessity for me at age 70 than at age 28. By age 70 I'll have more time to devote to my wife as I will have already experienced all I've wanted to experience with my life. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Well, at least birth control won't be a problem. Assuming of course that you'll be looking for a wife of a similar age. If you're looking for a bimbette, she'll be looking for a short-term marriage with long term benefits..... Link to post Share on other sites
Jo78 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 By age 70 I'll have more time to devote to my wife as I will have already experienced all I've wanted to experience with my life. At age 70 you'll have to devote lots of time to your athritis. Or you'll have alzheimers and forget to show up at the altar. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted December 29, 2008 Author Share Posted December 29, 2008 To be real honest I have noticed that the only time the desire for marriage is present is whenever I see married couples holding hands and kissing whether it's in the movies or in person. If I watch a scene in a movie where a married couple is sleeping in the same bed then the desire to be married will surface. But once those scenes are out of my sight I lose the desire to get married. Basically it's out of sight out of mind and consequently the desire for marriage goes away. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 With all the rampant divorces that happen now, I wonder why anyone would be brave enough to marry at all. But we still do it, for some reason. All that aside, I wouldn't say that you're weird or messed up for thinking this way, but it will probably create some real sadness for you in the future because, as much trouble as children can be, they are an incredible joy in your life - especially when you're older. They become your base and foundation, somewhat, and if you don't have this when you're older, you're probably going to feel very alone indeed. Also, long-term relationships can have incredible joys but you shouldn't get involved with that until you've done it all and seen it all and feel ready to settle down. If you never feel that way, then you don't. It's your life and your choice. But I wouldn't be so overly-certain about your prospects of finding someone willing to marry you at 70. Finding someone who loves you enough to endure your illnesses at that point will be very tricky. Most people grow together to that stage and have a long history. Your best best is to make sure you're set up financially so that you can hire someone to take care of you when you need to be taken care of. What your parents have to do with any of this, I'm at a loss to understand. Dishonoring your parents has nothing to do with going off and making a life for yourself, and raising a family. Any decent parent would expect their children to do this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted December 29, 2008 Author Share Posted December 29, 2008 Decent parents will not put pressure on their children to get married. I have other reasons for waiting until my parents are deceased before getting married. I don't want them to come to my wedding. If I wait until they are deceased then I will have a valid excuse for why I didn't invite them. I don't want them involved in my love life in any capacity whatsoever. Hiring someone to take care of me when I'm old is not the same as having a willing partner. I want someone who genuinely cares about me and is not just in it for the money. That's why having a wife will be a necessity when I turn 70. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Decent parents will not put pressure on their children to get married. I have other reasons for waiting until my parents are deceased before getting married. I don't want them to come to my wedding. If I wait until they are deceased then I will have a valid excuse for why I didn't invite them. I don't want them involved in my love life in any capacity whatsoever. Hiring someone to take care of me when I'm old is not the same as having a willing partner. I want someone who genuinely cares about me and is not just in it for the money. That's why having a wife will be a necessity when I turn 70. Your parents must be real charmers. I never thought that inviting my parents to my wedding involved them in my love life. Very strange. Getting married at 70 to someone who genuinely cares - well, good luck with that one. I'm not real optimistic for ya, though, and it's a shaky plan, at best. Especially since you'll be marrying her out of necessity, but you expect her to have genuine feelings for you. Maybe you can convince her that somehow it's a necessity to marry you. It takes most of us about 20 - 40 yrs to find that special person, if ever. Based on that, I'm guessing that you'll be somewhere around 90 - 110. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I think waiting until I'm 70 years old to get married would be a good idea for me. That will be a convenient time. I will have completed my time in the workforce, got my pension, have money put away in my retirement fund, etc. My parents will be deceased by then so I won't have to worry about having to tell them I'm getting married. My religion tells me that I should honor my parents. Well I put my parents first (next to God) then girlfriend comes after parents. However when I get married wife has to come before parents. So there is a conflict. I cannot honor my parents and put my wife first at the same time. I have to wait until my parents die so I'm under no pressure to choose between my wife and my parents. Life is hard enough as a single man but even harder when you get married. Marriage is just another stressor. However marriage is more of a need for elderly people who are lonely and need someone to hold their hand on their deathbed. So by age 70 it will be necessary for me to get married. So why do I start this thread? because most of society looks at me like there's something wrong with me if I don't want to get married until I'm 70. I'm 28. I love to have fun and the freedom to do whatever I want. If other people want to get married at 28 I pretty much leave them alone. I don't consider them crazy or weird. So why can't other people leave me alone and consider me just as normal as they are? I'm still going to date and I will let every girl know on date #1 that I don't want to get married until I'm 70 years old. This all sounds great if you live to see 70. Also if you do live to see 70 you may be in such poor health that you won't feel like getting married. And, if you do marry at 70 hopefully you like old women because that's all you'll get (if lucky) because younger women will only want your money. Older women may not want to marry you because they don't want to take care of an old man and possibly put themselves in worse health. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Decent parents will not put pressure on their children to get married. I have other reasons for waiting until my parents are deceased before getting married. I don't want them to come to my wedding. If I wait until they are deceased then I will have a valid excuse for why I didn't invite them. I don't want them involved in my love life in any capacity whatsoever. Hiring someone to take care of me when I'm old is not the same as having a willing partner. I want someone who genuinely cares about me and is not just in it for the money. That's why having a wife will be a necessity when I turn 70. Oh, and one more thing dear. There's no guarantee that you will out live your parents. They could end up burying you first! Link to post Share on other sites
Sw3etdev1L Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I think, nobody really wants to get married. Truth is, everybody wants to be free, experience be happy. Nobody wants to suffer from divorce, and nobody wants to be fully responsable to be decent and caring and honest and noble. truth is.....marriage doesnt' have to change a relationship. if the relationship is good...it should stay that way. the way your relationship is before marriage, is the way it will be after you get married, if you really KNOW the person. it's just a document. I don't want to get married neither, and I am a 24 yr old woman. Because I don't even want to think about responsabilities, children, taking care of their dieseases and stuff.. but have you ever thought you might be missing something there if you don't do it? if you haven't is because you haven't met the right chick. and if you are not even dating now. it is not your time...why worry. you can still get married at 40 when your brains are less panicked about the whole issue. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 This is my game plan. Maude was the original Cougar. Where is Harold? ............ Link to post Share on other sites
james123 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 no, 70 is too young to marry. Link to post Share on other sites
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