Eve Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Do you think that it looks fake? I have been encouraging my husband to dye his hair, just once to see what it looks like. Obviously I love him as he is .. its just that he is 11 years older than me and is greying very rapidly. What do you think about men and hair dye? Do any males here dye their hair? Should they keep it natural or what? Regards, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Oh Eve, I'm so gld you brought this up! You've seen them, haven't you? These elderly gentlemen, who, wishing to retain some semblance of youth, dye their hair jet black or vivid orange, and do comb-overs.... Why such garish colours?? For goodness sake, go to a hairdresser and have it done properly, or get some advice on the best colour and strength to use! I personally think people should "grow old gracefully" and let the grey through. Why is it such a stigma for a person to actually look their age? No Eve, please. Let him be. Love him for who he is, for who he has become and for how much he means to you here and now. Dyeing his hair will do nothing but make him look like mutton dressed as lamb. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eve Posted December 28, 2008 Author Share Posted December 28, 2008 Oh I dont know Geisha! .. I still think he should try it once! Of course it wil be like a mini crusade for him because his sister usually has to come to our home to cut his hair for him. I cant see him repeating the whole effort of going to the hairdressers every 6 -8 weeks for touch ups.. Regards, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 If he is greying early, by all means have him color it. A family friend started greying in his 20s and he has always had it done. Now he is older and the stylist even lets some of the grey stay at the temples - looks great and natural. Because men have such short hair, Im sure this could become a costly monthly visit...maybe seek good advice from a stylist on doing it at home! My H has a grey spot in one eyebrow...he has it done while he gets his hair cut. Link to post Share on other sites
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I'm 41. Been going to the same hairdresser for years and usually get pretty good advice. She told me to leave my hair alone. I'm blond so the gray isn't as noticeable. But she said it makes men look distinguished when I asked about dying it. But for god sakes don't do a come over, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I think grey hair looks nice. But they could at least dye it an unsuspicious looking brown. Black is bleh. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I will admit that I have been noticeably graying since late 30s. When I was around 40, I decided to try coloring my hair at the insistence of my wife. I asked my hairdresser for her opinion, and through dollar glazed eyes , she said it was a wonderful idea. And having it done professionally makes the difference. My hairdresser can match color to my real color, and it looks natural. As long as my wife's critical eye says it looks good, then I will do it. Personally, I think it does look better as a dyed brown. I do say that I did try it myself for a couple of times, and it did not look as good. So, if I were him, I would try it and see how he likes it. Do not buy it and do it...have a professional do him. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I think men should just go naturally grey, although there's the odd guy who doesn't suit grey hair. Skin tone will tell. Eve, if he dyes it a darker colour once, that's it! I can't imagine a guy growing out his hair and allowing for grey roots, until he can cut off all the dyed hair. If he's in his 40s or 50s, he will be salt and pepper, which means there's no way to colour his hair all grey, to allow for the roots to grow out. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I don't think it is necessary. But if he must, and if he is over 50% gray, the key is not to try and cover it all up, but to darken it just a shade, still letting some gray show through. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 The only reason I know this is b/c my dad dyed his hair for many years. He went completely white at age 40, and for years he actually dyed it sort of a sandy grayish color, just so that he didn't look like a ghost. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 A friend of mine is in his late thirties and he covers up his grey by putting in blond highlights. His hair is naturally a medium to dark brown. Whether your husband is the kind of guy who can carry if off, I don't know. We teased our friend for a long time afterwards. I know, I know, terrible! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Under 35, okay. Over 35, don't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Perm those pubes. As for colour, I think electric blue is the way to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eve Posted December 29, 2008 Author Share Posted December 29, 2008 Thank you all for the comments. Hubby has confessed that he is mostly worried about how his workmates will react to him showing up with a new look. He works in the engineering trade and he has said that if he is made redundant in the new year then he will try out a new look whilst approaching new employers. BUT I am rather conflicted because he has very dark full hair, like Raymond Romano. I like him with his dark hair best.. so hott! I dont want to make this a huge problem for him but I must admit that I can be a bit of a brat sometimes and I can feel a brat episode coming on. Childish I know. Suppose I stop fancying him? That would be really fickle wouldnt it? Regards. Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Yup. If you did that, I would sit back and question the basis of the entire relationship. Has the one thing that's kept you together all this time, really been his dark wavy locks.......? Don't be a brat. It doesn't become a mature woman of your standing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eve Posted December 29, 2008 Author Share Posted December 29, 2008 Thanks for listening Geisha and all. I feel SO much better now! Ok, it was just another average day with Hubby, nothing special happened but I really got to see anew all that we have shared over nearly 11 years and realised that my Hubbies hair colour was not the issue at all. I think I am at one of those points of reevaluation. Yes, its time to accept that we are older now and I will watch my Hubbie go through various changes firstly because he is older than me. I certainly dont want him worrying about something he cannot change and get caught up in considering ways to make me love him when I already love 'him him'. Not for how he looks, or anything else. Gosh, my comment had actually bothered him and I feel kind of bad now because he adores me, (even though I am sometimes a bit of a brat) Grey hairs are a sign of wisdom. A warm home. Genuine love. Battles fought side by side. An ageless longing to be together. What more can a woman ask for? What a silly thing to worry about! Thanks again for listening.. Regards, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
LavendarGirl Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I think guys look sexy with gray hair. Dark hair like you describe on your H, going salt and pepper? What's not to love about that? But if you must, get it done professionally or don't do it at all. Fake looking hair color on a guy is just not cool. And his colleagues might get a good chuckle if he comes to work on a Monday morning in a different shade of 'do. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I dont have any gray on my head, but I have quite a few in my beard. I grew it out for a week on the way up here and couldnt believe how old I looked. Ive aged like ten years in three Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eve Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 Lavendargirl - if he does decide to go to the hairdressers I will talk one of the kids into going with him. He usually goes with our youngest boy when his hair gets out of control .. They quite like doing that together. I would not dare to try a bottle formula just in case it all went wrong, although the prices are quite tempting. Can you imagine if it all went wrong? Glad to be back in balance. I was stressing myself out thinking about it all the time... Regards, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 But if you must, get it done professionally or don't do it at all. Fake looking hair color on a guy is just not cool. And his colleagues might get a good chuckle if he comes to work on a Monday morning in a different shade of 'do. Actually speaking from experience, most people don't notice. And if they do, they forget soon after. We all find so quickly that people don't really pay attention to us as much as we like to think they do. Link to post Share on other sites
georgejungle Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 i notice. I think it looks fake. I think dudes should just let it ride and NOT dye their hair, unless they're making a fashion statement by dying it BLUE or GREEN. Link to post Share on other sites
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