PWSX3 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 O.K. the stbxw has a Birthday on New Years & my folks are sending her a B-day card..... I was not planning on sending her one. Instead I was just going to send her a quick email saying; Happy Birthday hope you have a great day...... For Christmas she sent me & my son a Christmas gift but mine said; from son to dad. I asked him about it because the package was wrapped & felt just like the one he got. We opened them & they were two picture frames with our 4 generation picture on one side of the family & the other was 3 generation on the other side of the family so it didn't come from my son it came from her. I didn't send her a Christmas card, just emailed her & said; thanks for the gift. So the question is; do I send her a card as well??????? I do plan on going out & celebrating for her. We used to just go eat early & then come home. In fact I haven't stayed up until midnight for a few years, but I have been invited to two different parties already this year. I don't plan on setting around this year, it's party time for this old man!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Janus is the God of the New Year, and gives us our first month's name. He has two faces - one looking back into the old year, to glean experience and wealth of Spirit, the other looking forward to the year ahead, into the unknown, in expectation of excitement and adventure. You can either look back in regret and sadness, and look forward wistfully and with trepidation, or you can look back and think - "well thank goodness I'm not doing that any more!" and look forward to shedding the old skin and feeling good about you, things and life combined. Send her a card. No agenda, no baggage, no attachment. Wish her well, and get to it. Live. Link to post Share on other sites
guttedandconfused Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 If it were a mate you would send a card. I would send a card but I would pick a really funny one that you would send a friend, not one that you would normally send a partner. These things are hard arent they? I am trying to stay on the high road no matter what dung is flung at me. And get yourself out to those parties. I havent been out on NYE in years either and I am not missing this one. I have my choice of invites too and I am going to make sure that this is the first of many nye's that I celebrate for me. LAst year we stayed in just the two of us and I want to make this one as far a departure from that as possible. After all, the whole point of New Years is out with the old and in with the new..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author PWSX3 Posted December 28, 2008 Author Share Posted December 28, 2008 All my cards I give are funny & not serous, that's just me.... I'll stop tomorrow at my special card shop & pick out a funny card. guttedandconfused, good to hear you are going to get out & about as well.... Next year is a year of growth, learning & doing things you would have never thought you would have done.....That is also my goal....... Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I'd send her a card and remark that this is the most thoughtful gift that you've received in a very very very long time and that you appreciate the thought that went behind it. I'd also add that you're not trying to open a can of worms because you know how she feels but the gift was very very very nice and something you'll always cherish! Link to post Share on other sites
dead-dyke Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I absolutely agree w/ the padre. Right down to the very word. Send it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PWSX3 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 I went to my favorite card shop today and found a really nice card. It is one you would send a friend so I bought it & wrote; hope your friends take you out & show you a good time........ Got it in the mail & she should have it by her B-day... Link to post Share on other sites
dead-dyke Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Nice one. That certainly shows an effort, that's for sure. Feels good, huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Mountains10 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I gave a card and a small gift certificate to my stbxw, just to be nice, not expecting anything in return. I gave it to her in person just before Christmas. I did not receive a gift from her and it was fine because I wasn't expecting one. However, a couple of days later, she took me to lunch and told me it was my Christmas present. It was odd, but I guess it was a nice gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
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