belledamesansmerci Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Hi all, So, this is my first time actually posting in these forums even though I have looked through them in the past. Here is my situation. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and several months and are currently living together and he says that he loves me very much. However, this is our winter break from college and he has gone out of the country with his mother and brother to visit their family for five weeks while I am here at home. I think I'm having a really hard time because in all the time we have been together we've never been apart for more than 5 days at a time. And, this is my first relationship. I just feel so lonely at night I want to cry. I do have friends here at home and I have been going out with them but I pretty much still feel depressed. Also I keep fearing that my boyfriend will cheat on me. He said that he is staying at a family friend's house right now and this friend has a daughter who he has been spending time with. Do you think it is wrong of me to feel jealous of this? He did call me on christmas and we have been emailing back and forth but he said he would call me the other day and he didn't call. He then sent me an email after not calling and basically said he was sorry but he had been super busy and with the 6 hr time difference and a variety of other things that had been going on that day he didn't have time. Do you think I should be angry with him for not calling and that he is just making excuses? Or, should I cut him some slack? Thanks for any advice... Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Cut him LOTS of slack. You have to figure out in yourself why you feel so insecure and making up all these problems. If he's never, ever given you any cause to doubt him before now, why would you start making all this stuff up to hurt yourself, in your head? Link to post Share on other sites
georgejungle Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 unless you have doubts in him and reasons to believe that he would cheat on you, then i wouldn't worry. It's hard to remember the time difference and when abroad, you get caught up in the moment of being somewhere new and different, so he may forget to call, but it doesn't mean he's forgetting about you. Yeah, don't jump to conclusions. As you said, it's your first relationship...don't freak out unless there's a valid reason to. just relax, he's calling you and emailing you, isn't he? he must care. Link to post Share on other sites
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