I admit that i was wrong, why can't he

[xxbuttrflyxx]

I admit that i was wrong, why can't he please advise...

 

I refere to this guy as my question mark (?) because he's so many things to me at one time, that if i were to put it into words we'd be here all day. I met him the same day he met his first love. And from the moment i saw him i said to myself "damn i want him" at a time where i had sworn off men because of an ex.

 

Its been three years since that day, and because he was seeing someone and i was dating a few (just dates nothing else), we thought it would be best to be just friends... for the first year, and then come the second year, we stopped dating the "others." The girl he was dating broke his heart, and in turn he was toying with mine --> i think i played the rebound. So i started to pull away from him and dated another person for a while, and he got jealous and wouldn't admit it.

 

One night in January i went out on a date with a guy at the time, and he happened to call me and ask me to come over later after his class. So the date ended around 9:00 and i was at his house around 9:30. And he was in a cranky mood and an accusing mood and i got scared and lied to him about where i had been.

 

Keep in mind we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend and nor have we established anything. But lying to him really upset him and he refused to talk to me. It took me 2 months to get him to hear me out and let me apologize, and 2 months after that to trust me again.

 

On my birthday last year i realized i was in love with him, and i wrote it all in a letter and gave it to him, asking for him to catch me if he had any feelings towards me. And for a short period of time he did. And i'm very honest with my feelings so i usually just tell him what i'm thinking, but he never responded, well he responded twice.

 

Well a year had passed since then and we've had our share of arguments about dumb stuff, but the core of out relationship after my screwed up lie was to be HONEST with one another and TRUST one another. And on Christmaas day me and my girlfriend went up to see him to exchange gifts. and he sat there and LIED to me about the gift he gave me (his mother actually got it for me) and then lied to me about saying it was from him. And then after we had our "10 minute alone time" i had gotten a phone call and had to step outside. When i came back in my supposed friend was going down on him, -->but keep in mind we aren't dating...even though we act like it.

 

Then he was like "i don't know why your getting upset, when we played truth or dare a few weeks ago, you were fine." So i screamed at him and was like "THAT WAS A GAME, WHAT HAPPENS IN THE GAME STAYS IN THE GAME!!! WE AGREEDED NOT TO CARRY IT OUT ONCE THE GAME WAS OVER" and he said "stop over reacting, you just did the same thing to me an hour ago while your girl was on the phone outside...(like that makes things any better).

 

I've spent the last 2 days crying, my entire being hurts because i love this ******* of a man and i let my guard down. And on top of him Lying to me, and not being honest with me, he lied to my friend and told her i said it was okay for her to suck him off, as a christmas present. And then called me the next day and acted like nothing was wrong, and told me that i misheard everything he said, and tried to get me to think that there was a REASONABLE explination to this.

 

I've thought about this for 3-4 days now, i've cried all i can but for some reason the tears keep comming. My heart says to distance yourself and wait for a while before you take him back. But my head says see if he's going to fight for you. Some of my girls say leave his ass, and my other friends say wait and see what he'll do. My mom never liked him (but she's hard to get along with anyway) and my dad said wait and see what happens, maybe he needs to feel like he's losing you. I don't know what to do.

 

When we argue he brings up old crap like a female, i argue about what i'm mad at at this moment, but i'm tempted to play his game. What should i do? I need help ...please?

[PrincessPeach]

I don't really understand the thread title. This isn't about whether or not people are admiting their wrongs. He hasn't been honest with you, that is true; but it seems like the dishonesty has been going both ways.

 

But why are you even bothering with a guy that treats you like this? First of all... you two AREN'T together as you clearly state, so why should you expect him to act like it? If you don't like some of the things he does you aren't in a position to keep him from doing what he wants. He isn't your boyfriend and merely wanting him to be exclusive with you does not make that a reality.

 

He sounds like trash to me besides. I'd say look for someone else.

[atwitsend]

Then he was like "i don't know why your getting upset, when we played truth or dare a few weeks ago, you were fine." So i screamed at him and was like "THAT WAS A GAME, WHAT HAPPENS IN THE GAME STAYS IN THE GAME!!! WE AGREEDED NOT TO CARRY IT OUT ONCE THE GAME WAS OVER" and he said "stop over reacting, you just did the same thing to me an hour ago while your girl was on the phone outside...(like that makes things any better).

 

Please elaborate on the truth dare incident.