kippa Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I have been with my partner for nearly 2 yrs and she is beautiful in everyway,she has a great job in a bank, she did all she could for me and i did all i could for her. We loved eachother with all our hearts. The problem is with me and not her. I have never cheated on her but for some reason and i dont know why i use internet chat sites to talk to other women. I dont care what they are talking about and im not too bothered what they look like either. It just makes me feel wanted when i am not with my partner. I dont mean anything by the words that go back and too when im on the sites and i do try and not go on them but as i said it makes me feel wanted. I think i have low self esteem and maybe its been brought on by myself worrying about her leaving me. She is 31 and im 43 so even though i have never had any cause for concern i still worried id be left without her and alone. Does that make sense to anyone what im saying and can anyone give me some advise please. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Does she know about this? If not, how would she react if she did? You obviously feel very guilty about it. You even go so far as to declare a reason why you're doing it.... Why not address the cause, instead of worrying about the symptom? Link to post Share on other sites
Ayemtee Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 I have been with my partner for nearly 2 yrs and she is beautiful in everyway,she has a great job in a bank, she did all she could for me and i did all i could for her. We loved eachother with all our hearts. The problem is with me and not her. I have never cheated on her but for some reason and i dont know why i use internet chat sites to talk to other women. I dont care what they are talking about and im not too bothered what they look like either. It just makes me feel wanted when i am not with my partner. I dont mean anything by the words that go back and too when im on the sites and i do try and not go on them but as i said it makes me feel wanted. I think i have low self esteem and maybe its been brought on by myself worrying about her leaving me. She is 31 and im 43 so even though i have never had any cause for concern i still worried id be left without her and alone. Does that make sense to anyone what im saying and can anyone give me some advise please. You suffer from common insecurity that's all. While I wouldn't recommend continuing what you do on these websites, I will suggest you talk to your SO about how you feel and what she and you can do to work on it. Why you do feel unwanted when she's not around? Do you guys keep in touch when you're separated? Does she text message you? Email? IM? Link to post Share on other sites
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