where do I start???

[kinipela]

This is one of my last hopes...to join a forum in which to vent to. i'm struggling to find peace in my life, and I've tried it all...marriage counseling, therapy, medication. You name it I've done it....nothing has helped. I don't know what else to do....so here I am to spill my guts to the unknown...

 

Where do I begin? Let's see....I'm married and have been married for 5 short years. I have two children, one girl one boy ages 6 & 2.5. Now as I type...I'm on the verge of divorce, I'm living away from my home 3 nights a week and I cannot continue in this downward spiral.

 

It all began in July...my husband found a text on my cellphone that I had sent to a coworker asking him to call me back. i was helping the guy with a case and I had photos for him that I printed. My husband saw this text and went ballistic. I admitted that yes maybe there was some flirting going on but that was it....nothing more. My husband took it as far as he could and made my life a living hell for the next 3 days...he asked me to leave, i did. He wouldn't speak to me or anything. The only person I had to talk to at this point was my sister in law (his brothers wife) whom i've grown very close to. She is listening to me cry day in and day out and finally asked to come and speak with me. She brings me a stack of emails that her best friend (and also close friend of mine) sent to her. THEY WERE FROM MY HUSBAND. They asked her to meet up with him....asked her to call him on his private work cell...gave her his work schedule and told her that he had feelings for her and didn't know where our marriage was going. I was LIVID....i thought wtf has he been doing and he is saying the stuff he has been saying to me for the last week??? So he admits to it and basically brushes it off as well you did wrong and I did too so let's move on. I couldn't move on...and still can't.

 

That is just the BEGINNING too...this has happened 6 times over since then all with different women and I've caught him every time. I can't seem to get past it or move on from it I'm just caught in an emotional rollercoaster right now and don't know what else to do. that's what brings me here. i'm seeking some advice, maybe someone with a similar experience to my own....justification???? basically I just need to get it out!!!!

 

Looking forward to meeting new friends and getting some 'venting' out =)

[trying2]

Hello,

 

Im so sorry to hear about what you are going threw. Six times after that is an awfull lot. Before he found your text was your marrage good or did it already have lots of bumps in the road. Has he cheated those times.

 

Im new to this site to and understand the need to vent and get some advice. I will do my best to throw out some thoughts.

[kinipela]

Our marriage has never been "perfect" We only got married because I was pregnant with our first child. 6 months after we married I found he has posted an ad on a dating site that said "looking for a hot girl for hot fun"...he promised to never do that again. then things got good, then bad...then good again. At this time I thought things were good, but he's told me he wasn't happy, etc. so he turned elsewhere...

[trying2]

My x cheated on me and drug me threw the mud when I was 5 months pregnant at age 18. We were married 13 years and he didn't ever do it again. With out going into detal, yet. ( ha, ha). I in the end wound up not happy and divorced, stupid situation though. But in my oppinion, you need to ask your self if. What kind of life do you want to build for you and your kids? Dealling with it now is better then years and years later. If you trully love him and he trully loves you then try to work it out but if you both or even just him is not happy and looking else were it will not make for a healthy relationship now or later. We all want love and compation and intimacy. But being happy and having trust is the beginging to all of that. Does he want to have a life with you or do you think he is wanting to call it quits. It is not ok that he has been turning elsewhere.