Too funny=Always friend?

[j1i1m1m1y1]

Hey everyone:

 

I'm almost 21. I've never been in a relationship that lasted more than a month and it's been years since I've even kissed a girl. I went almost a full year talking to girls for maybe 5 minutes a day, in total. Then, about 6 months ago, I started to make female friends. I am both smart and funny. My female friends have said "I'm so sad that I didn't meet you sooner. You're hilarious and super fun to be around." and "I was talking to [insert name here] about you and told her that you are soooo cool and a total nerd and...." Those are the positive comments. The more negative ones are more like "You can only believe 20% of what Jimmy" or "I can't take anything you say seriously" or "I think you're a really complicated guy but you hide behind a goofy image." One of my guy friends who has never been rejected by a girl, ever, told me that I should be able to find a girlfriend but I'm too much of a p*ssy. He also called me awkward around girls.

 

I am sarcastic alot. I know that. But if I could have any other advice on how to be more attractive, rather than just always a friend that would be great.

 

Thanks!

[FeedingOnFever]

Well, I for one like funny guys. I can't be with someone with no sense of humor or no playfulness. I think if you're extremely friendly to girls without eventually attempting to flirt a little though, you'll get pegged into the "really great guy friend" zone. But hey... in spite of the fact that I am a female, I don't understand my own gender. Every girl is different.

 

I know that I for one am attracted to guys who are bold, funny, but also considerate. My friend is always getting hit on by sleazy guys who don't actually ask her out politely, but hint and make overtures and attempt to drunkenly grope her. Big no no. A confident guy who will ask you out in a nice, clear-cut and friendly way is something most girls will appreciate no matter what, even if they aren't interested.

 

If no one seems to take you seriously, maybe you could try talking to girls about things that are important to them, and just listening to their opinions and sharing info back and forth that way. Girls like to be heard =) Hopefully you will find a girl who appreciates YOUR personality though... I'd shy away from trying to change your image TOO much to attract them. Then you'll have to slowly drop the front after you get to know each other, and it might prove difficult.

[Shnuggles]

Hi Jimmy

 

You sound like an interesting person dude. You are who you are so dont feel you need to change.

 

I wouldnt say I know everything about girls but I do know a lot about people so maybe I can give some pointers? I have somewhat of a goth personality but hide it a bit when I dress. Its important to wear nice cloths but it doesnt mean wearing a suit and spending tons of money. Clean pair of paints/jeans with a good quality Tshirt works fine. I find most outdoor shops sell great clothing thats really good quality. No ripped, dirty cloths!

 

At your age it helps to look good. Join a gym and get some muscle. You dont have to look like a body builder, just get some shape. Strong forarms, shoulders and back are what a lot of chicks like. Biceps not so much really and abs arnt so important either. Some girls dont like them. Either way its all good really.

 

Dressing clean and neat and looking after yourself does wonders. It will attract the girls to you and then you just shine that personality.

 

Get the girls to do the talking. Ask lots of questions and talk about yourself when asked. I do this to a lot of people and it works like a charm. Personal life and at work!!

 

Good luck.

[You'reasian]

Hey everyone:

 

I'm almost 21. I've never been in a relationship that lasted more than a month and it's been years since I've even kissed a girl. I went almost a full year talking to girls for maybe 5 minutes a day, in total. Then, about 6 months ago, I started to make female friends. I am both smart and funny. My female friends have said "I'm so sad that I didn't meet you sooner. You're hilarious and super fun to be around." and "I was talking to [insert name here] about you and told her that you are soooo cool and a total nerd and...." Those are the positive comments. The more negative ones are more like "You can only believe 20% of what Jimmy" or "I can't take anything you say seriously" or "I think you're a really complicated guy but you hide behind a goofy image." One of my guy friends who has never been rejected by a girl, ever, told me that I should be able to find a girlfriend but I'm too much of a p*ssy. He also called me awkward around girls.

 

I am sarcastic alot. I know that. But if I could have any other advice on how to be more attractive, rather than just always a friend that would be great.

 

Thanks!

 

Hi Jimmy,

 

I would recommend working on who you are. Your identity. Seeing as you are 21, you've got a lot of time to develop but now would be a good time to start.

 

And about the relationships, I wouldn't worry about it. You may be a late bloomer, but others like myself for instance who started dating at a younger age probably got started off the wrong foot in terms of what to expect from relationships and what have you.

 

The reason others can't take serious what you say is probably because you probably cut up alot and this detracts away from a more serious side.

 

As fat as the p**sy comment, is there anything else that suggests you are a fearful individual? or otherwise scared?

 

This may sound funny, Jimmy, but I've been very suprised to meet quiet and somewhat timid seeming individuals who actually work in some interesting fields that seem contrary to that aura - like emergency paramedics etc.

 

Anyhow, focus on who you are as a person and work on that.

 

Best of luck!