talk.nerdy.to.me Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hello, I'm in need of some advice regarding my semi-LDR of almost 2 years. See, we see each other on the weekends: once or twice a week, three at the most because of distance barriers. So the problem is that we've fallen into a rut where we have so much catching up to do from barely talking throughout the week ( we can only chat online a couple of times a week ) that our conversations revolve around the things we've been doing while apart and hardly evolve past that. I would love for us to take on more personal topics more easily, such as our philosophies, feelings, and also more mundane details about our everyday lives.. not just "the latest". Another issue is that we're both quite private people so talking about our most intimate thoughts isn't second nature to us. So, can anyone relate to this situation? Any advice or comments are welcome Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I feel like I am kind of getting in that same rut. Explaining what we did, and falling back into multiple "i love you" and "i miss you"s. But for a while now, we haven't discovered anything really "new" about each other. On the other hand, it may just be that the relationship is in a new stage... we've discovered the majority about each other without living day to day with each other, we've become comfortable with the routines, etc. I am finding that any time I begin thinking "hmm, am I cooling off on this relationship?", I sit and I think about what I believe makes my guy so incredible. He listens to me without judging me, he is supportive of my goals and desires, he encourages me to express those goals and desires, he wants to be a motivating factor in ACHEIVING those goals and desires, he wants to get to know my daughter, friends and family, he has his OWN goals and desires, he wants to take care of me but would never restrict me from taking care of myself... every time I think of the reasons I am head over heels for him, I fall in love some more. One thing I have learned about LDRs is that they really are very difficult. They require a lot of effort, a lot of open communication, and a lot of trust - and I have a lot of issues with trust still to work on myself. By the way, I am really glad I found this forum. Just reading other people's experiences has helped me put mine in perspective, so thanks to everyone Link to post Share on other sites
awesomeness43 Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 how far away apart are the two of you? cause... that does not sound like an ldr. weekends and once or twice a week.. just sounds like a busy couple with lives and a career. Link to post Share on other sites
Author talk.nerdy.to.me Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 Thanks for sharing KikiW, relating to someone else really helps.. Your relationship does sound pretty amazing though, despite the challenges. Oh, what I meant to say is that we see each other from 0 to 3 times a week, and when we do see each other it is within the weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
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