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[wanttoknow]

Well, it has been a while since I have posted. My wife and I are in MC and have been going fairly regularly. I have started single counseling again because I have found some issues of my past that had not been dealt with and am feeling more free each day. The anger is subsiding, but not without a fight within some days. Anyways, it is really something how God is watching over us and things seem to be going in a better direction. We had some nice talks today and have over the past few weeks.

But...

You all knew that was coming...

I am concerned for my wife. She is depressed and wants so badly to overcome her hatred of food. she wants to be healthy and I have not done a great job of supporting...I was the enabler and have come to grips with that and am working on a more positive outlook.

 

If you have some input as to how I can be supportive and not pushy at the same time? I will be helping with the food preparation and just trying to work out more myself and work on me. I do not want to interfere and try to FIX things because I know I can't in this case. But I am doing my research and linear thinking so that I can do the BEST that I can for her and my family as we continue to work!

God is blessing us and continues to show me that this may all work out for us. I just want to keep going forward as much as humanly possible.

 

Thanks for your help, I will take each statement with the analytical thinking necessary to put it all together and use what I can to help her out!

[wanttoknow]

I could use some insight by somebody here!

[lonelyandfrustrated]

Eating disorders are a very delicate subject.

 

For flavorful, healthy food, you might look into Mediterranean diets. I cook a lot from the Sonoma diet book, and you'd never know it was heart-healthy, low-cal food. Even the kids gobble it up.

 

You could also invite her to do active things with you, like playing tennis or going on a hike or ask for her help in the yard--stuff that's technically exercising but doesn't feel like it. Just ask without demanding she do it. "Hey, how about we tackle the Mountain Trail this Sunday?" She says no, go without her. Sooner or later she'll want to join you.

 

Good luck.

[wanttoknow]

Thanks - She actually has done some more outdoors type stuff with a girlfriend from work and I am glad she is doing that. I feel like I really need to step up and say no to some things, and yet also know that this is a decision I have no control over really. at the same time, I know that I can lead by example. This is so tricky and continues to lead us down the wrong path. For a while I was fearing her leaving. As we continue to work on us and as individuals, I do not want this either now. Want us to be happy and that means we are each happy with our selves. I am just praying that God will direct her more and give me the strength to lead more too.