have a boyfriend but crushing on another

[Phateless]

He is living at home, doesn't have a real job and he isn't in school either.

 

These are two major DQs that might prevent me from starting to date someone in the first place. Does he at least have PLANS, NOT INTENTIONS, but SOLID PLANS to go to school or to find a job?

 

NEXT!

[Viking]

G damn. This is one of the most depressing, selfish and self centered threads I've bothered trying to read in a long time. I finished with page 4 and skipped directly to the end. It is kinda funny because I didn't miss anything it seems.

 

Page 4-21 is probably something like this: I'm seeing this new guy but I want a mature man. But I don't want to have to be mature myself. I want someone to take care of me and make sure I'm their princess, but if I want to see other people, I will. Regardless of what it might do to them.

 

Does this thread reek of "Sex and the City"? Calling all of these people Mr. This and Mr. That? What are you? Looking for Mr. Big? Truth is no one like him will date someone like you because you use people and then once you've gotten your thrills, you get rid of them.

 

I feel really sorry for the man that ACTUALLY LOVED you. You took advantage of him and for what? So you could date Mr. Crush? Sure Mr. Crush might have been hot, cool or whatever, but how long did that last? You traded in someone who actually had long term plans for you.

 

You claim he was your best friend too? I've had better friends on XBOX live than you were to him. You really screwed the pooch. Maybe I'm coming into this kinda late, but to be honest, you're not worthy of being dated because of your immaturity, jumping from guy to guy, your CRAZY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS (who claims that they believe something and then their actions go against what they claim and then expects sympathy? Crazy people).

 

Here's what you need to do. Don't date anyone. This younger guy is probably just a "boy toy" you have. He sounds kind of like a loser and he's not really contributing anything to the relationship. You know why you're not #1? You have to be worthy of being #1 to have that position. You claim you want a MATURE MAN. But here's the problem, you're not a mature person yourself. You see, maturity goes hand in hand. If I didn't know you were in your 20s, I'd have guessed you were in high school by the way you treat people and jump from guy to guy. You're like a rat abandoning ship. You will end up lonely. You will have no one who loves you. And you will not be happy.

[maxil]

Here's what you need to do. Don't date anyone. This younger guy is probably just a "boy toy" you have. He sounds kind of like a loser and he's not really contributing anything to the relationship. You know why you're not #1? You have to be worthy of being #1 to have that position. You claim you want a MATURE MAN. But here's the problem, you're not a mature person yourself. You see, maturity goes hand in hand. If I didn't know you were in your 20s, I'd have guessed you were in high school by the way you treat people and jump from guy to guy. You're like a rat abandoning ship. You will end up lonely. You will have no one who loves you. And you will not be happy.

This^

 

She totally just ignores Dexter's comments now. Dexter has been correct the whole way through and many other members are trying to convince/tell her that too...

 

hotdancer reminds me of my ex. Never knows what she wants, acts on instinct, impulsive, immature [Not saying I'm very mature; 21 years] o yeah.. and SELFISH

 

Please LISTEN TO what others have to say, please spend some time to get yourself together~

 

PS: I was almost like your doormat ex a couple months ago and I was with my ex for 3+ years. And I hope your doormat ex has found someone much better now

[Imajerk17]

This thread stretches over 18 months. The names might have changed but the story remains more or less the same.