sultry33 Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Just like to thank all those on here who have offered me loads of support..happy new year to you all. Well i now have a bf... early days but it feels good he is not the typical guy i thought id fall for ie.. 5ft8.. normally i go alot taller lives with mum atm.. no car but as someone on here said what happens if you meet the guy who doesnt tick all the boxes.. well here i am 100% happy im glad i choose to not let my previous thoughts on my preference interfere heres to a new beggining:love: hugs to all xx posted here too as i spent most my time on coping x Link to post Share on other sites
openbook08 Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 aww good for you sultry33! heres a toast to 2009 & indeed new beginnings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sultry33 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 aww good for you sultry33! heres a toast to 2009 & indeed new beginnings. thanks;) the vibe i got was true..all going well. Been on couple dates now 1st one was 7hrs long tonight i think its steppng up a level he is sleepng over.. im nevous an excted in one. i play it really cool like dont text 1st lol or nc for few days etc and he always contacts me;) Going to the pub tonght few sambucas and some passion.mwahhhhhhhhh Few months ago i didnt honestly think id get to this place but life does go on and you cannot plan these things they just happen. We have both been honest from day1.. i sad i dont do just fun an he said the same so seems we have same outlook etc. hope people get some hope out of this thread as this is what i needed during the bad days.. my ex is happy im happy and really thats what lifes about i forgave him long ago for leaving me:) Link to post Share on other sites
louiep Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 good as u look it a wonder u wasnt over him the next day but i sadly know that isnt how it works glad things are moving well 4 you Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Sultry, I'm happy for you that you were able to move on. Are you sure this new guy has his act together? I hope the living with mom/no car thing is a temporary setback and that he's truly awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sultry33 Posted January 19, 2009 Author Share Posted January 19, 2009 Sultry, I'm happy for you that you were able to move on. Are you sure this new guy has his act together? I hope the living with mom/no car thing is a temporary setback and that he's truly awesome. Hi Sedge, I think he probably is just not a doer.. likes to plan his moves etc.. seems that he is looking for better job and he said its just temp that he is with his mum. Im quite guarded and this weekend a few cracks did appear which is making me unsure.. he is really so shy and seems to not show much.. i asked him why and he said he doesnt like to display affection in public .. yet he laughed when i looked around before kissing him lol im so used to a guy that is very affectionate and yes i admit it sometimes bothered me but with him he is completly the opposite... im scared that although he is completly different to the norm for me im actually going to fall for him an then i think is it just because he is different? i dont want to overanalise anything either so really im not wanting to get too deep but if i pull away like i would typically do then i could be losing a good un damn its difficult lol sexually im highly sexed and he is not .. do i try an calm down or try rev him up? i feel like jumping him everytime im near him lol can say it was intense but on a weekend stay only twice.. too me thats not great .. as in quantity lol not quality.. any advice from anyone would be good x Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Sounds to me like he's lucky to have you!! And yes, sex is very important. My ex used to tell me all the time that my libido was simply higher than his and it really hurt me. Made me feel like if I was attractive enough he'd want me. What do you think this guy's deal is? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sultry33 Posted January 19, 2009 Author Share Posted January 19, 2009 Sounds to me like he's lucky to have you!! And yes, sex is very important. My ex used to tell me all the time that my libido was simply higher than his and it really hurt me. Made me feel like if I was attractive enough he'd want me. What do you think this guy's deal is? Im not sure tbh as its early on i think maybe i intimadate him a bit but its how i am in the bedroom lol i did wonder if he now does not find me a turn on but he rarely takes his eyes off me if you know what i mean and he comes across as he is seeking assurances that i like him .. he did say are you a nympho lol i said yeap.. he said he likes to build aticipation so next timeim really up for it. im used to my match and waiting prob wont make me want it more as i already want it. the problem for me is the more he pulls back the more i want him but i dnt want to be clingy as thats not me. Im pulling back a bit now in contact i just texted an said great weekend have to meet up soon.. so up to him. In all the oither ways he is really cool and i do kinda like him .. the 2 times we did do it was passionate an all that maybe i have to look to myself to see why it didnt feel enough and if this lies with me not him..maybe im expecting too much and being too full on. If i dont hear back from him then i get the answer and i be ok as i know everyone has different needs etc.. will just be a damn shame. In regards to your ex and the way you felt i can relate to that as yrs ago i was with a guy who unless we was kinda makin a home movie he could not get it up... every time we got close like cuddling i was so turned on but after hrs of foreplay it rarely ended up going all the way. i used to dress up..suggest things like viagra but he wouldnt seek help. i cheated on him even though i really liked him. At the time i felt unsexy and thought it must have been me but after rs ended i understood that it was him. confidence is sexy/attractive and if you meet your match omg its brill. so dont ever think its you sedge.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author sultry33 Posted January 20, 2009 Author Share Posted January 20, 2009 good as u look it a wonder u wasnt over him the next day but i sadly know that isnt how it works glad things are moving well 4 you thank you i missed your reply before. many said to me why him? even he said it but its right i guess in that you cant choose who you love. Its been tough since i saw him last july but i eventually ended the chase even though he ended the rs.. to me it helped it helped me move on from him. The new rs im not sure of at this moment but time will tell. Hope things are better for you x Link to post Share on other sites
louiep Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 thanks its only been 6 weeks for me . but the hard days eaze up every now and then and i get a glimspe of the future and it looks better yall ladies remember theyre are a few good loyal caring men still left so dont waste your life on aholes wish you the best Link to post Share on other sites
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