Went wild at a party, now people are saying I am a whore.

[whiteoleander]

Last weekend I went to a party that a friend of mine had at her house. It was only supposed to be a few of our friends, but it turned out to be a huge party. I got a little wild and I smoked weed and got really drunk and I think someone even laced my cigarettes, I'm not sure. I don't really remember a lot that went on that night. All I remember is when we started drinking, I smoked a little weed and then after that is a blur until I woke up the next morning.

 

The bad thing about it is, when I woke up, I was half naked on the couch with some guy that I had never met. God knows what I did with him. And I talked to my best friend about it the next day. She didn't really get as messed up as I did, she just got kind of buzzed. She told me that I was making out with guys and girls all over the party. She said she tried to get me to stop but I just got mad and told her to leave me alone, so she did. She said that I also had sex with 2 guys and 2 other girls in one of the bedrooms with an audience of like 20 people and some of them were all having sex, some were doing drugs, some were making out, some were dancing, it's like everyone was in their own little world. She had to leave eventually so she didn't know what I did after that.

 

I am really ashamed of myself and can't believe what I did. That's so not like me. But this week at school, the party has been the topic of discusison. And everyone knows what I did. Now some people are calling me a ho and talking bad about me. And other guys are like all of a sudden wanting to go out with me, I guess cause they think I will put out.

 

I don't want to be labled as "easy" just because of that one wild night. And I don't want to lose friends over this. What can I do to wipe my slate clean?

[Ryan]

Stop getting drunk and high at random parties.

 

When you put yourself in such situations, sympathy is not going to be bountiful.

[Rob]

My heart bleeds for you.

 

When are some of you people going to realize that large groups of people, alcohol, and DRUGS do NOT MIX? It's stupid, risky behavior you've engaged in. I have no sympathy for you whatsoever. Don't you realize that all those chemicals in the beer and weed caused you to shed your inhibitions?

 

You should be labeled as "easy." You knew what you were doing.

 

One more thing. Get yourself tested for STD's at the first available chance.

[Anastasia]

Well I can honestly say that you are deep in a not so great situation. I have to disagree with the previous replies-- no one deserves to be called a whore or a slut. That is ignorant and extremely juvenile behavior to say the least. Although I'm not banishing your responsibility in the matter I can honestly say that you don't deserve all the flack your receiving-- after all you didn't have sex with youself and I'm sure you didn't brew the beer in your bath tub-- others are accountable as well.

 

Although I'm in the same University scene I really can't think of any method to clear up this night of fuzzy and freaky drunkeness. Remember that there is a totally different set of standards for college women-- no one is going to say anything about the guys you had sex with after all. Or at least until someone is angered by this post. Just because you were trashed doesn't give anyone the right to take advantage of you. Being that we live in that type of world I would have to say try and cope. Set your limits low on alcohol and drugs. Keep the amount of drunk sausage around you to a minimum. No one is going to take care of you but you. Becareful and be gentle with yourself-- mistakes are made and of course, there was someone to take advantage of it. Be safe and get yourself checked out.

[sweetmind20]

first of all, good get tested to see if you are ok. don't take the chance with yourself that you're ok. you don't know what those people have.

second, once you start having more respect for yourself, you won't even need to do partying like that.. you can have a good time without putting yourself in those kinds of situations. i would suggest staying away from boozers and potheads and the rest of that kind of crowd. focus on your life, and do something you'll be proud of. their words may sting but you are only responsible for you. move ahead and learn from your mistake. also, don't try to appease these people; they're not worth your time. who cares what they think. if they had a life they would live it instead of worrying about what you've done; it's not their business. stay strong,and turn your head and go into a better direction.

 

hope this helps.

[otisomega]

Slow down, so you don't get hurt.

[Bob]

Get tested... make sure all is ok there.

 

All I can say is hang in their and it will all blow over... sooner or later . I'd make an extra effort to show yourself as not being easy or whatever... Just by the way you dress, number of guys you date... You did this to yourself really... so it is up to you to live with it till it goes away.

 

The decent guys tend not to go for easy girls.. so try hard... two months or so it will all be better

[jalexy]

i think you need to wait atleast 3 months to get blood tests for stds.....nobody mentioned that....

but for the bacterial infections, wait about 3 weeks, maybe even 2.

and geez louise, administer some self control next time when you smoke like that. maybe have a friend foprce you away from the situation....as your friend tried. but if you were my friend and you told me no, i would have kicked your rear before i let you do any of those insane, dangerous things.....you wouldnt have a chance to tell me go away.

[faux]

Please don't put yourself in situations like that ever again. You regret it. It was wrong and hurtful to you. You could be in danger with your health. I think it's disrespectful. It hurts me that people do these things.

 

You don't deserve to be labeled a whore or similar things because of a mistake, but what you did can be considered "whorish" behavior by some. To me it's just wrong. I hope you don't do it again.

 

You don't deserve to go through that. Sure I don't know you, but nobody deserves that, and nobody should put his/herself through those situations.

[Arabess]

I'm certainly not the voice of morality.....but I really wouldn't make more of it than it was. You got drunk and messed up. You are not the first or last person to do so. It's NOT the end of the world.

 

You can go on a few dates and 'redeem' your reputation. Tell them in a joking way you only have group sex at wild parties......laugh and turn them down. It's all in how you handle it.

 

I was at a 'fancy function' at the Navy base close to where I live.....where I now work. I was new to town and got invited to a party where I was 'supposed' to be the Republican representative for my district. I got so drunk....I bet a few sailors I could drink beer standing on my head....and proceeded to try to do so. Was I mortified the next morning? SURE! (I was wearing a skirt!!!)

 

I had to live thru it.....and learned just to make it into a joke.

 

You'll be fine. It'll just take awhile to heal you bruised ego.

[Papillon]

What really intrigues me is the fact that you had bisexual group sex - are you really bisexual or not at all? My point is that if you are bisexual, and it was common knowledge, then what you did at the party could cause some people's idea of bisexuality to transmorph into "whoring", if you get my drift... in other words, its one thing to be sexually active with both genders, but if you do it, even unwittingly, in a "loose" fashion, then people will characterise your bisexuality as "just being a sexwhore".

[Cpunch75]

Get tested

 

Everyone has whorish behavior, some of you can't deny that and act like angels in this forum, sometime or another you probally did the same thing. If presented, you would probally do the same thing if accountability and reputation were not an ISSUE, inhibitions are really desired experiences that someone has never done before. Why label this girl a ho if she is just experiencing a taste of a deviant sexual lifestyle. Maybe she is a swinger who knows.

 

This girl is in the process of forming her identity, and along with that, sometimes are extreme experiences, the more she doesnt like being associated with the title "whore" the less she will engage in the behavior in the future.

[Karlise]

I once got incredibly drunk at a college party and joined a bunch of other girls in an impromptu wet t-shirt contest.

 

Not only did I allow them to pour water all over my shirt (which made it see-through), I also grabbed the megaphone and yelled at the guys who were staring to drop their drawers 'cuz I wanted to see their goods.

 

Then I pulled my shirt over my head and stood there in a bra (also wet, also see-through)

 

I kept saying suggestive things to the guys in attendance. A bunch of their girlfriends were furious. I was flirting outrageously with one guy in particular and doing a lap dance for him in front of everyone.

 

Well, the next morning I woke up hungover and mortified.

 

All the horrible memories came flooding back. I had made a complete ass out of myself.

 

I was a freshman in school and had wanted to make friends. Instead, I alienated a bunch of girls (who'd pegged me as trash) and had let myself appear ridiculous to a bunch of junior and senior guys.

 

My best friend stood by me and made sure she walked me to class the following Monday just in case anyone said anything to me. There were some people who pointed fingers and made comments but you know what, after a few weeks it died down.

 

The point is, learn from your mistakes.

Know your limits with alcohol. NOBDOY needs to completely obliterate all sense of reason.

If you HAVE to get completely ****ed up when you drink, you probably need to stop drinking.

 

I was glad the next year when a lot of those people had graduated.

[spectre742]

Everyone screws up once in a while and **** happens. stay away from situations like that and learn from what you've been thru- it builds character. Memories will fade before you know it and no one will remember a thing.

[Helpme2004]

I agree get tested and dont put yourself in that situation again definatly drinking and drugs dont mix.I guess you live and learn by your mistakes.

[Dug]

Just one thing Honey.....learn from this experience and put it is your past....so far in your past that you wont be foolish enough to feel you need to confess it to Mr. Right (or Mrs.) some day. I had a friend who partied and boffed any guy who asked for it. She felt that she had to confess her behavior to Mr Right to clear her consciounse. Big mistake....he couldn't deal with it. If you give a guy a blank sheet of paper and ask him to list the attributes of his "dream mate.... "slut" won't be on his list.