G-Unit Posted September 19, 2003 Share Posted September 19, 2003 (I didn't know where to post this topic, I thought this place made the most sense.) Hello Everyone, You guys can call me G-Unit. Well to start things off I just moved to north Carolina and I didn't know how shy I was until I had to make new friends in such a new area. I had alot of guy friends back where I used to live at and I did not have many girls that were friends of mine. I am male. Well I walk into english class on the first day and I look around the room to see whats the best fish the barrel to catch (translation: Which girl is cute and looks to might have a great personality?). Well I see this one girl sitting 2 rows away from me and I was like hot D**N. But anyway, everyday after that I didn't nesscarily stare at the girl but I did keep my eye on her about every time I look a different direction in the class. I guess a couple times she noticed I was looking at her and she didn't really smile or look down on it. She just didn't do nething but keep listening to the teacher. So yesterday english class was over and its time to go to our buses. So she is walking down the hallway by herself and I swallow my shyness right down for about 10 seconds. I go over to her and I ask, "hey whats your name?", pretty girl, "My name is (enter name)". I said, "well my name is (enter name), I said its nice to meet you", she said, "it is nice to meet you to". So I walk on my marry way and then I walk to my bus. I felt like I came up dry and choked on first impressions. Then today comes and when I see her once more, she looks at me and I keep walking. I said omgosh what did I just do, I looked at her and kept walking. Once again she was by herself and at her locker. What do I do? I feel like she is to pretty for me. Im not ugly or anything, I just don't know what to say or anything. Am I suppose to be friends with her first? I wouldn't mind dating her, but I don't know how to get to know such a pretty girl. I feel as when I should walk up to her. My conversation starter would be the dryest thing ever. Im 17 and she is also 17. We got one thing in common. Am I suppose to walk up there and ask her what her interests are right out flat? I was thinking about asking for her Instant Messenger name to get to know her online and offline, because Online I dont have to feel the rejection if I said something wrong. Does anyone know how I can ask her is she dating anyone in a nice and non intrusive way eventhough I have only spoken to her once. I didn't really know which forum to post this in. I read through about 15 pages of threads relating to my problem, but I felt I had to post it to get the best response. These boards look really cool, very positive and influential. Like I said before I didn't know how shy I was until I moved. Before I moved I had plenty of friends, not nesscarily a girlfriend, but friends yes. I didn't mind saying what I felt loudly in class and such. I know being shy can give me a loss of words and such. But I haven't felt this way about a girl before, I got to get to know her and I don't really care what anyone will think when I do. Also I know I have to act now because the chance to get to know her will soon be gone I think. I would love some advice on my predicament. Any positive input is welcome. I am realling looking for some lines to say to her when I see her in the hallway. Also I need to know what to do next after the all time favorite of exchanging names and saying nice to meet you. Some people may think I am pathetic for saying all of this or my problem, but I need advice and I don't care what you have to say. I will take criticism when it is due. Thanks for reading this. G-Unit (sorry for all my grammatical errors, im kinda confused) Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted September 19, 2003 Share Posted September 19, 2003 I think the first point is to STAY CALM! If you say one more time either...... (a) She is too pretty for me or (b) I don’t know how to get to know someone as pretty as her I am going to get on a plane, come over there and slap you over the head. That’s is just SILLY TALK. The more you keep getting agitated about it the more worked up you are going to be. Just remember that this whole part of life is NORMAL, girls expect you to ask them out, in fact, they LOVE to be asked out. Yes, dating and getting to know each other is most important thing in the beginning. Am I suppose to walk up there and ask her what her interests are right out flat? You don’t have to go up to her and ask her that straight out, but I would see if there is a way to hang out with her a little and chat about ANYTHING. You will get to know each other. Why not ask her out, for a coffee or something? Am I suppose to be friends with her first? I wouldn't mind dating her, This is exactly what you should be doing, dating and getting to know her. I was thinking about asking for her Instant Messenger name to get to know her online and offline, because Online I don’t have to feel the rejection if I said something wrong. No I wouldn’t do this cos this is all about you two getting to know each other in person not online. Online is VERY different. You need to stop thinking that you are going to say something wrong, cos its about you both getting along with each other the way you are, and this is why we need to get to know people to see if we are suited to them. She might just LOVE your way of talking. Stop being so negative, this attitude is going to be your downfall! Just be yourself, cos after all you want to meet someone that will love you just the way you are! need to know what to do next after the all time favorite of exchanging names and saying nice to meet you. "Hi, (insert name here) How are you? Did you have a nice weekend? Hey what are you doing for lunch? Would you like to catch up?" Now does that look hard? its EASY and SIMPLE! TRUST ME! GOOD LUCK and don’t fret! Go with the flow, this is very natural! ~PurpleAngel~ Link to post Share on other sites
Author G-Unit Posted September 19, 2003 Author Share Posted September 19, 2003 You know what Purple? I have posted my problems at many different forums that I have been to and your advice to me is the best so far and Monday I will stop my shyness and go for the gold! I don't drink coffee and you said "wanna go catch up on things?" How can we catch up on things if I have only met her once? Link to post Share on other sites
subtitled Posted September 19, 2003 Share Posted September 19, 2003 its not a script dude you mould it to your situation. So say, hey how was your weekend? chances are she'll say something about it, ask her a related question, after a little convo say you going to be round at lunchtime? I might see you in the playground (or whatever you call it in America...). Just take is slowly, aim for getting to know her/being friends. It's not so intimidating. Unless she instantly thinks you're 'hot' (and this isn't always the best...), she's going to want to get to know you first too before she makes herself vulnerable. So yeh, just take it slow Link to post Share on other sites
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