samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Imagine what would go down if her and this guy were alone for some reason. So you think just because she let a man groped her, she would cheat if given the chance?? Maybe she was embarrass about it but didn't want to go freaking out and call the cops nor make a report on this. A report, now that would be too much. I bet if it was vice-versa, some poster wouldn't be talking about reporting it. Link to post Share on other sites
mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 So you think just because she let a man groped her, she would cheat if given the chance?? Maybe she was embarrass about it but didn't want to go freaking out and call the cops nor make a report on this. A report, now that would be too much. I bet if it was vice-versa, some poster wouldn't be talking about reporting it. You're ignoring the fact that she made zero percent effort to prevent or stop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Wow I can't believe how harsh you guys are! I mean, it's certainly not the coolest thing she could have done but at the same time, to break up an otherwise good relationship is just stupid. A relationship with someone that likes attention from the opposite sex and won't do anything to keep them from touching them in inappropriate places isn't a good relationship. Been there, done that. Know it all too well. It's possible that you are all right and she just "liked the attention." People who like attention from the opposite sex in the way she was receiving it don't have a good track record of being faithful. Or maybe she was trying to keep the peace and not make a huge scene at a family function. You really can't know and why shouldn't she get the benefit of the doubt? She wouldn't have made a scene by just telling him to watch the hands. She made more of a scene by letting the guy rub her ass. Women are handled inappropriately at parties or bars or even just riding the subway and we don't make a big deal about it because it's a huge pain in the ass. Too much of a pain in the ass to give your bf respect? Usually, the best thing to do is just to walk away and try to avoid the guy. According to him, she didn't walk away from it. Women don't enjoy this kind of attention, it's awkward and disgusting but some guys just can't keep their hands to themselves. Funny, I've been around enough women that appeared to be enjoying that kind of attention just fine. Enjoyed it enough to go home with the guy afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Yes it can be upseting but after a while, maybe you can cool down and realize she was having fun, afterall it was New Year's eve, a special occassion. I didn't know a special occasion was a justification to flirt and disrespect a SO:confused: Thats good to know. I'll allow a woman to put her hands on my waist or touch me superflously next New Years Eve and tell my girlfriend, "awww come on, its New Year's Eve.....I'm entitled!" then I'll have to go somewhere and put ice on my nose after she punches me. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 So you think just because she let a man groped her, she would cheat if given the chance?? Based on my experiences with this, yes. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Based on my experiences with this, yes. There you go again saying what will happen based on you getting cheated on in the past. Why apply that in general? By your writing you're venting out based on your obsession on girls who broke your heart, plus you always state the same thing over and over. How about making a signinature that says ''I will not answer cheaters' post, only cheetees'' Link to post Share on other sites
mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 There you go again saying what will happen based on you getting cheated on in the past. Why apply that in general? By your writing you're venting out based on your obsession on girls who broke your heart, plus you always state the same thing over and over. How about making a signinature that says ''I will not answer cheaters' post, only cheetees'' People wouldn't come here asking for advice if those who were giving it never experienced it. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 People wouldn't come here asking for advice if those who were giving it never experienced it. So you have to get cheated on in order to give advice, wooow, talk about unlogical?? I never experienced getting cheated on nor doing it, but I still can give advice too. If all you gonna tell them is ''Oh how could you do this to him, he doesn't deserve a trash like you'', mind as well don't even post. There is no point in keep on venting about your whatever past issue. Or if you want to insult them, you can do it indirectly, be like ''Well I don't think it would be convenient in staying, thus it will affect them later on and they will always get reminded of what happened''. Link to post Share on other sites
mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Instead of taking what I say out of context maybe you can read it as is on the screen. Here let me further clarify what I meant: People would rather have advice from someone who's been through it rather than someone who's quite new to it all. That being said you really have no place to belittle Dexter's advice. He has been cheated on and I'm sure he's quite familiar with the characteristics of a cheater. People would much rather take advice from the experienced rather than the inexperienced. Now please, humor me and play coy with this post. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 People would rather have advice from someone who's been through it rather than someone who's quite new to it all. That being said you really have no place to belittle Dexter's advice. He has been cheated on and I'm sure he's quite familiar with the characteristics of a cheater. People would much rather take advice from the experienced rather than the inexperienced. Ok thank you for clearing this up. Not that I was belittling it, just that it can seem rather tedious bringing back your past on every single cheating post. Then you won't always hear people breaking up right away with the cheaters, some want to work it out, some take back cheaters (I wouldn't but that's them, let them be). And posters like Dexter or others will keep saying break up when the couple are still together and want to know how to work it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 415 Cowboy Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 As follow up, my G/F and I had a pretty constructive heart to heart on this situation. She said that after all the years of working with bands on the circuit she was used to the drunken jerks and has learned to ignore them and not let them ruin her night. She said she knows who she is going home with and would never allow stupid boyish behavior to go too far. She certainly wouldn't want me to get into a fight and said she'd let me know right away if things went over the line and she needed me to step in. I countered that was fine, but I wouldn't want someone to disrespect my truck let alone the woman that I love and respect. I explained that being a cop, I tend to be protective of people and can't stand to see folks victimized on any scale, so I really expect her to at least speak up for herself in a situation like that and not just right it off to boorish behavior. I explained most of the reactions found here and that most men would not react well to this sort of thing. I believe that we reached an understanding to prevent this from happening again and want to continue an otherwise great relationship. I thank all of you for taking the time to comment! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 There you go again saying what will happen based on you getting cheated on in the past. No, not by my getting cheated on, but seeing buddies get cheated on, as well as guys I don't know that well. When I say "my" experience, it also includes what I have observed and not just in my personal experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
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