Would your gf being a lingerie/ asian import model bother you?

[awesomeness43]

I have dated, hooked up and been with girls that are in the industry and around that business. It has never bothered me, and usually when i am with them i would be proud. Though, i can honestly say that i was never really serious with any of them.

 

My problem is that i am really in to my gf. We are really open with each other. When we first started dating, she would express her interest in modeling to me. I always though of it as just a novelty idea as i did not see her that way. She has told me tonight that she is potentially serious in being pursuing a career in import modeling. I was bothered, and i had expressed that to her.

 

The more i think of it, the more little things she says bothers me. Though no nudity, and definitely not porn. I am still not sure if its just me, but the stigma with import modeling is often slutty. That she is so ok with exposing herself in that light irks me. She is university educated, alot to offer and stunningly beautiful. She would have no issue becoming a model and both her and I know that our connections can easily make that happen for her. That is the thought that bothers me, that it could so easily happen just like that.

 

Am i right to be bothered, is this a judge of character or am i just over reacting? I am not the jealous type, but i am quite bothered by this. Our relationship is strong, love is mutual and passionate, and she is completely in love with me. If she really does decide to take the first step, i will try and support her. Thing is, i see myself potentially still very serious with her later on in the future and not sure if i can accept the fact that she does that. Sooner or later, i am scared it will get to a braking point and i can't take it anymore.

 

If i stay with her, i feel that it is not fair to both her and i. if she really wants to and doesn't for me, i feel i am holding her back. What can i do? What SHOULD i do? Guys, would you be bothered or how would you take it if your gf was basically to be a lingerie model.

[ComaWhite]

I think it would personally in my honest opinion that there is technically nothing wrong with it has there a millions of women who model really to almost nakedness and have byofriends and husbands. Yeah if you're not used to it. I can see where you're coming from but. Just talk to her about it. And just see what she says. Or maybe get more opinions on here before you do anything as this is my own opinion. But since she's not modeling nude or even porn. I wouldn't worry too much. And if it really bothers you. Try to figure out the source of the insecurity(not saying you're but only if it truly bothers you).

[atwitsend]

A little history. Where did she get the idea from? Who introduced or suggested it to her?

[awesomeness43]

A little history. Where did she get the idea from? Who introduced or suggested it to her?

 

 

Although she is one of the nicest people i know, she can be quite vain in to herself. No one really confronted her about it, more just because she gets compliments of people asking if shes a model etc etc... Also, fact that her family and my family say shes especially photogenic and should be a model doesn't help either.

 

This is not porn, and not nudity. Friends tell me it would be a good thing and bragging right, yet i see it as a sign of character when it has never bothered me with anyone else before...

[motive2002]

What is the underlying issue? Is it jealousy? Is it the stigma of having a lingerie model for a life partner?

I think what you should do is try to fully support what she wants to do. I would think that for a woman to know that her man is behind her 100% would put him above any other man.

 

Jealousy and fear turns your lover into your opponent. You want to be on her side and support her, and she will love and respect you for it.

[atwitsend]

I don't the thought of some Austin Powers saying "yeah baby" as she twirls around in seductive poses would pose a problem for me. Just think. This photographers job will be to make your girlfriend feel seductive. Will you accompany her on shoots? Will you make any rules in regards to private shoots? If she is vain. You don't think one of these guys could say the right things to her? Just a different perspective.

[AAlike]

it's funny how much timing can change your perspective on things. I'd be willing to bet that if she was a model when you met her, you'd be much less inclined to be disturbed by this than the current situation in which she's considering modelling after your relationship has been established.

 

that said, if it bothers you, it bothers you. here's a question - have you discussed other types of modelling - ones that don't involve a "slutty" connotation?

[Untouchable_Fire]

it's funny how much timing can change your perspective on things. I'd be willing to bet that if she was a model when you met her, you'd be much less inclined to be disturbed by this than the current situation in which she's considering modelling after your relationship has been established.

that said, if it bothers you, it bothers you. here's a question - have you discussed other types of modelling - ones that don't involve a "slutty" connotation?

 

Your right!

 

Perhaps if he had met her when she was modeling he would not have dated her seriously. That may be where the problem exists. He is used to seeing these import models as sex objects. He understands that other men will think the same, and it bothers him that his GF is actively wanting other men to see her in that way.

[Trialbyfire]

Just to differentiate, lingerie models are viewed by men and women, while import models are viewed by 95%+ men.

 

Why is she so interested in becoming an import model?