vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Rather than turn this into a continuous battle of "he said, she said," my wife and I have decided to present our sides of the story on a single thread. In order to make it easier to read, please avoid posting replies until we are at least nearly finished. We are both currently in our separate apartments. Honey, can you let everyone know you are my wife? How long have we been married? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes, i your wife, and We have been married over 6 years, Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 From the beginning of our relationship it was agreed that I would be allowed some freedom outside our relationship from time to time. Who was the first to suggest this? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 i am the first to make the suggestion ,Like two cycles put together, but still need some space to each other,i remeber we talk like that Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 wow this is a first! how cool Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Did I force you or pressure you in any way to make that agreement? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 No,you didnt Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Why did you make an outrageous suggestion like that? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I thought marriage need space and freedom ,And i thought its good for you and me too,and I thought man cannot stick with only one woman,need fresh air sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Did I also ask what you wanted? Did I ask if you wanted an open marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes,You did, you did asked them both, i dont want anything, just want a happy family with you,and i dont want any other man except you. Yes, sometimes you can. not always with other woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Were you really sure about that? Is that what you really wanted this relationship to be like? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I wasnt 100 sure,But i thought it might be good for us.it might a good option for you, and you can feel i love you and i can think about your feeling.Cause i dont trust man can 100 faithful to a woman. Since like that,Why not make you happy?So,i dont know whether its really wanted this relationship be like or not.But i thought its really ok to me yes,I did express it i think. cause after i thought it should be ok with me, then i expressed sure Just for fun is fine Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I'm not sure why either of you care who the faceless, anonymous, internet people believe between the two of you. You both sound like you need some professional help. I suggest both of you get individual counseling. And, if you won't leave each other alone, then couple's counseling too. Husband poster: She said she didn't expect you to be able or willing to stay faithful so she gave you the freedom to sleep with others. You can't get mad when she does the same just because she is your wife?/GF? I don't care if she once said she wouldn't do the same or not. Wife poster: You can't keep seeing a guy that upsets your partner, even if you have an open relationship and then expect your husband?/BF? to stop seeing someone you don't like him seeing. In the middle of all this there are kids? Damn I feel bad for them if there are! If there are no kids, why do you two even bother dealing with each other? Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Were you fooling around with any other men during the time we started getting serious and made this agreement? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes,i foolling around, 2 online,1 ex bf before we meet in real. and you didnt know that Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 My guess is that you are both addicted to drama. You've burned your way through everyone who lives around you and have now turned to this site to stir up new drama for you to feed on. Stop torturing each other and turning your home lives into a circus. Get some counseling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Do you think the fact that you were fooling with other guys around influenced your decision to offer this agreement? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes,i think its influenced my dececion No,i was chooseing who is suitble for me before i move together,was not sure,you are the one must can be my husband I made a choice, But not sure,whether you are the defantly suit one for me before we moved together.No,i didnt think about some other fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 You said you wanted to devote yourself to me, but you kept in contact with your ex-boyfriend for all those years. Why did you do that? What did you tell me about it? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Cause he keeping try to talk with me,i thought as well be friendship was fine.but also actually in my deep heart i felt satisfied that there was another man still feel attractive to me. I didnt think about begain with ,so,i stopped rerspnsed his sms for a while,but later i answered his sms again,i guess from that i hold some possibility in my deep heart. I told you we are just friends now,nothing would happen Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Did I ever ask you to talk to me before changing your mind about something like that? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes,you did ask Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 But you had sex with him anyway. What was the reason for that? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 The reason was i felt lonely and also wanted some fun ,and i felt lonely. then went to him for attention ,and at the same time wanted to be found out and get attention Link to post Share on other sites
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